10yr old girl and ‘chores’

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Is 10yrs old too young to expect them to keep their room reasonably tidy - ie. put tissues and bits of paper in bin, throw duvet/pillows actually onto bed rather than leave on floor and re hang up clean and ironed clothes (that they put on, then decide not to wear or just pull off) rather than screwing into a ball and dumping inside bottom of wardrobe?
Btw, I have shown what/how to do these minor things many times and she loses privileges (iPad) regularly. Yes, I could leave clothes screwed up but really can’t cope with her looking like a waif! Plus I need to access the bed to change it/hoover carpet aaarrgghhh

Nope, she's well old enough!

That's the bare minimum in my opinion.

Yes she's old enough but what she's doing isn't out of the ordinary. I don't think i ever had a tidy bedroom until I had my own house. Instead of punishing what about rewarding ,both my kids get pocket money for chores and one of the chores is tidying their bedrooms

Yes she is plenty old enough, my 5yo is supposed to keep his room tidy. (Not bragging, he is far from consistent with it!! But he does have the capability to put clothes away/tidy up toys/etc)

Mines been doing this since she was 5, she's 8 now. If I find clothes that I've washed, dried, folded and taken to her room screwed up in a ball or not put away properly she's called back to do it again with a chat about how washing isn't my hobby but I do it because it needs to be done and it's disrespectful for her to do that after my effort. Keeping the house nice is team work, not my job. She also tidies her room before the cleaner comes each week and sets the table every night for dinner. Those are her jobs, there is no monetary reward it's her role in the family.

Good luck, yes she absolutely should be but if you find the secret to actually getting it done please share. My 17 year old still doesn’t keep hers decent, so much so that last week I deep cleaned it for her, not that you would know if you looked at it today so I’m going back to my old method of just closing her door!

to be fair though I do remember driving my own parents mad with the state of my bedroom.

I started taking pride in my room at that age and continued to do so, but I do like order & am OCD. I like to keep my personal space tidy/clean.