A Christmas present one!

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I have a nephew and a DD.

A few weeks ago I asked SIL for present ideas for my nephew, she said he was getting a games console for Christmas and said he would appreciate a game for it. She mentioned a couple of games he already has and to steer clear of those. I know what he likes so bought him a new game in the Black Friday sales.

Since then I’ve received a few texts from SIL saying that someone else was getting this game or that game so could I make sure I didn’t buy it. The first two times it wasn’t the same game I had bought so I just replied ‘no problem’ (knowing it wasn’t a problem) but the third time I was getting annoyed so said ‘I’ve bought x game and can’t return it now’.

My brother has since messaged to say someone else has bought nephew this game so can I return mine. WIBU to say no? I think if they wanted me to get a specific game they should have told me. I understand they don’t want any duplicates but this used to happen all the time when we were kids and we would just exchange the present.

I mention I have a DD as they haven’t asked at all what she would like. It feels very one-sided. AIBU?

I think her asking you not to get X game was a hint, tbh. You could have just told her then which one you did get, and she could have told others not to buy it. She's just trying to avoid duplicate purchases, whilst allowing you to 'pick' what you want to give him. I wouldn't like being told to buy a specific gift.

But now there is a duplicate, so just make sure you include the receipt so they can return it if you don't want to.

Maybe they've picked something nice for your DD?

Everyone's communication is a bit off here. I don't understand why you didn't say on one of the first two times which game you'd bought.

Anyway, here we are - so options are:

• you've told them which one it is and the other person can exchange theirs
• as a kindness to the other person you exhange yours now
• you give yours along with the receipt and your nephew can exchange after Christmas.

As for your daughter, don't wait to be asked. "Did you want any present ideas for Daughter?"

I think you should have told her what you'd bought/intended to buy as soon as you knew. You asked her for ideas, she helped you out by suggesting a video game. Other people will have no doubt asked her the same question, and she'll have given the same answer. You did make her life harder by not telling her. I get that it's a whole palaver though!

I don’t really understand why you didn’t say ‘Oh, that’s fine, I’ve already got him X’ the first time SIL contacted you.

As long as you haven't opened it and you have the receipt then you will be able to return it.
Then buy a voucher for whatever shop they normally get the games from.
Then give them a suggestion for your daughter.
Honestly....some people make gift buying such a faff 😂

You should have said which game from the outset. It’s a surprise for your nephew, not her

Take it back and get a voucher