I don't want to leave a snow globe in reach of my two year old, DH thinks I'm being OTT

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AIBU to think that we shouldn't have a snow globe on the coffee table where my two and a half year old can reach it?

This is not a plastic snow globe but a heavy glass and resin one received as shift. I saw it had been put on the coffee table within his reach when DS tried to pick it up to show me. It's huge so he couldn't pick it up properly and as soon as I saw him try I rushed to stop him. Then said to DH we need to move it.

DH told DS sternly that he isn't to pick it up himself and DS agreed. Then DH insisted to me that this is now an ok place to leave it. I told him no way, it's too heavy for DS to hold, it's glass and water so it's heavy and could smash and hurt him very easily and DS agrees to things that he then doesn't follow through with a lot. He's only two.

AIBU and DS is old enough to follow instructions, and shouldn't ever be in this room unsupervised anyway?

Or AIBR as DS is only two and can't be trusted to stick to his word when his safety is concerned, and there is a chance we'll look away for a moment and he could hurt himself?

Seems sensible to not have something your ds could break, in reach of your ds

I know adults that can’t stick to their word, let alone thinking a 2 year old can 🤣

Is your dh lacking in the common sense department?
Of course you need to move it. It's pretty, shiny, heavy, and made of glass and your child is two!
If dh gets ridiculous, smash the thing yourself, put it in a bag and drop it or twat it with a rolling pub or something and throw it out!

No poll on your post, but has your DH ever been around a two year old?! Of course it'll cause an accident if you keep it on the coffee table

I am fatigued by even hearing about you having the discussion of the snowglobe.

If you want to move it just move it.

I wouldn't leave a heavy glass ornament where a toddler can reach. It's an accident waiting to happen.

My 2 yo broke a gifted snowglobe (glass) within 10 hrs of receiving it. And that was whilst sitting on someone's lap.

Yeah id definitely move it..

Lesson one on day one of a child care course: children are different to adults, they need protection and care. Surely your DH knows this basic rule.
Would he leave a lighted candle or hot coffee within reach of a two year old? ( if the answer is yes he really shouldn’t be in charge of a child)

Yanbu

he is ridiculous

Does your dh normally lack common sense or is this a one off?

Why not just move it rather than say “We have to move it”

YANBU to not trust a 2 year old. Your h clearly doesn’t know any 2 year olds- including his own if he thinks that it won’t get broken. .

I didn’t move anything out of my daughter’s way. Neither did my mum or her other grandma. We taught her the word No. Never had anything broken.

To answer your questions, yes DH is lacking in common sense when it comes to what's ok for a two year old, clearly.

Ok I feel much better now about putting my foot down. I thought am I just being overprotective, how is this being unacceptable not obvious? I guess it is.

We have heavy snow globes we bought for DC's first Christmases. Always kept them on the mantlepiece out of reach (thinking mainly about not wanting them to break than safety). I do let my 2yo pick it up and carry it with help though (afult's hand underneath hers), because it's fascinating to a toddler and once she realises how heavy something is, she knows she needs help with it.
I don't feel the need to be in the same room as her though, she has roamed the house freely for about a year.

I'm using the mobile app, I'm not sure if you can set it up on here or if I just don't know how.

The thing with snow globes is they are really exciting and attractive to a two year old, and to make them work you have to pick them up and shake them, which is an accident waiting to happen.
It’s not fair to you two year old, however much self control he has, to put something like that within reach.
It’s different to other ornaments, or heavy glass water filled things like say, vases of flowers or fish tanks, which he might be more easily able to learn to just look without touching, because he doesn’t see adults touching them.
The snow globe he does see adults picking up. It makes it harder to remember.
Just move it up higher, no need for a complicated discussion.

There are essentially two schools of thought - risk aversion and positive risk taking. Risk aversion would involve removing any hazards, positive risk taking will involve warning the child of the hazard and providing instructions and supervised access (I.e. "this is heavy, hold with both hands, I will help"). Accidents can happen either way. Positive risk taking involves a lot more effort but some development literature suggests it is preferable (the whole Montessori method is based on positive risk taking).
Positive risk taking does not involve forbidding the child from touching something. Because if you do, they 100% will.
But it's easier to put things away.

I’ve got a special snow globe that I still keep out of reach of my six year old because he’s too fascinated by it!

Well it might be fine. My DCs probably would have looked and not picked it up once told. BUT it's hardly a big inconvenience to move it somewhere higher and not take the risk. So I would move it.

Definitely put it away. If he smashes that it will be dangerous and a big mess, it's just not worth the risk.

Some snowglobes contain antifreeze which is poisonous and as this is definitely an easily preventable accident waiting to happen then no you're not being unreasonable

This. How do some people go through life, it’s a bit of a miracle.

Bless the naivety of your husband. He must do very little of the parenting. To everyone here, it's obvious.

Is your husband always this argumentative? (Mine was, which is why I am now single!).

Why is he so obsessed with having it on the coffee table? It's a weird place for it anyway.

And does he take the two year old to the toilet? Or tow answer the doorbell? I think it's fine to leave at that age for a couple of minutes if they are watching TV or playing....