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AIBU?

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To call him out on this?

11 replies

Mysfaxe · 07/12/2024 17:53

I’m in the early dating phase with a fella I met in Oct. Everything’s been lovely and boringly uneventful so far.

We both had Thursday and Friday off work so we went out Thursday and it turned into a 2 day date, which seemed grand. We had a chat about exclusivity and a really great couple of days.

Friday eve I had a friend’s leaving party so he and I parted ways. While I was the way there, he text me to say how much he’d enjoyed our time and was so happy to have met me.

Later in the evening, I asked him if he’d like to join the party, as the friend said he was welcome (i had mentioned it earlier but he said he had stuff with his friends, which he later told me had been cancelled).

He said yes to coming to the leaving thing, but that he couldn’t join till 11pm, so to enjoy the party till then and he’d call me.

11pm came and went and he didn’t text (he had text around 10). I tried calling and no answer.

He did text today to say hi, but as yet I’ve not replied.

AIBU to think this is rude and something is amiss?

What do I say?

OP posts:
SmileEachDay · 07/12/2024 17:56

I’d probably start by asking what happened rather than jump into ‘calling him out’

CurlewKate · 07/12/2024 17:58

Why not ask him what happened. Might he have fallen asleep, got absorbed in chatting with other friends, forgot-any number of things.

ForeverPombear · 07/12/2024 17:59

Ask him what happened last night.

LemonyChicken · 07/12/2024 17:59

He was probably out and pissed and forgot?

RubyRedBow · 07/12/2024 18:03

Why are you ignoring him but posting here? Ask him but I do think you’re being a bit full on when he had already spent two days with you - he probably wanted some time for himself.

SmalllChange · 07/12/2024 18:08

He did text today to say hi, but as yet I’ve not replied.

So you're going to play the moody silent game instead of replying with, "Hey Bob, didn't fancy it last night then?"

pictoosh · 07/12/2024 18:12

"What happened to you last night? All ok?"

That would be a start.

KrisAkabusi · 07/12/2024 18:32

Fuck's sake. Have a conversation like an adult instead of starting an argument or acting like a moody teenager. Ask him what happened . Don't go in accusing him of anything.

stargazerlil · 07/12/2024 20:39

well he could have hooked up with someone else…or he could have fallen asleep. You’ll need to ask to find out.

RubyRedBow · 07/12/2024 21:35

I would also drop the expectations a little. It’s very early and going too quickly could put a damper on things.

xyz111 · 07/12/2024 21:42

pictoosh · 07/12/2024 18:12

"What happened to you last night? All ok?"

That would be a start.

Say this. Just keep it light.

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