To be upset by this?

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Was on an Instagram chat group with three supposedly close friends.

Kept getting vibes of in jokes etc and feeling left out but didn't trust my gut instincts.

Turns out the three friends have a separate insta group, just the three of them. They apparently 'forgot' to invite me. They added me to it.

I've looked and they are all far more active on there than the group chat I'm on, even chatting til about 2am sometimes when they all say on the chat they're 'logging off' at 10pm.

I'm upset and I've ended the friendship with all three. They can't see why I'm upset. Or rather, one can but two can't!

I’d be upset too.

I’d be upset too. I don’t think it’s a case of forgetting to add you because why would they have made another group when you already had one that all four of you are apart of…

Nasty mean girls, of course you’re upset. I hope you find better more mature friends.

They are not your friends. Friends wouldn’t do that.
go find your people and don’t waste anymore time on them.

I would be upset and see it as purposeful, yes.

Sorry for you

Thanks everyone. Luckily I have other friends. I just feel so upset tonight

I'm sorry they've treated you this way. I'd be very upset too.

So sorry, OP. They’re incredibly childish.

That's akin to sneaky teen girl behaviour.. leave one out.

They don't deserve you. Get better friends x

One of them has even said that they didn't create a group, it just created itself

I had a similar thing years ago. I got a dog from a Romanian rescue that a colleague ran. It is a very good rescue and I became part of their fund raising raffle team. I did this for over a year. Got on well with the other four members of the team. Over time a couple of other people were added to the team. They were nice too. It all ran smoothly. Then one day the most recent addition to the team added me to another private Facebook group called “rescue fundraising team”. As I scrolled through I realised that all the other members of the rescue team had been on this group for at least three months, since a person not on the auction team had created the group. The person that created the group asked if there was anyone else that needed adding, and my fellow auction team members had said no. They’d all chatted regularly about things on that page. I was really upset. When I mentioned it, they said they hadn’t noticed I hadn’t been added. I left the auction team about a week later. I’d really thought we were friends.

I just don't understand people who seem to get a kick out of being deliberately unpleasant to somebody who is supposed to be a friend.
Absolutely something badly wrong with people who can behave like these women have to you.
You are much better off without them.
I'm glad you have other friends OP.

Looking back now there's been lots of times over the last few months where I've felt a bit unwelcome or in the way but I dismissed it as me being paranoid.

Lesson learned to trust my gut instinct!

They're not friends, you're better off without them.

No loss to you.
As someone who got rid of a shitty "friend" group about 8 years ago, I've genuinely never regretted it for one moment. If they've made you feel crap and uncomfortable for months (as mine did) the relief of not having that anymore is immense.

Just see it as a lucky miss. If you hadn't found out you'd have carried on being friends with people who don't like you very much.

When a twat

Remember the modal age of death in the UK is 86 for men and 89 for women. A couple of any age might die together in an accident before their kids reach their majority.

(In such cases, one would hope social services would be involved with decisions on the children’s living arrangements- humans aren’t property to be disposed of in a will.)

But back to you- your dad’s assumption doesn’t affect you at all. You’ve no intention of adopting his kids, even if you had been approved to do so. And in any case, you’ve corrected him now. It doesn’t seem like something that needs to occupy your thoughts.

Bloody hell how insulting to your intelligence. I would be hurt too.
Although it hurts, you are better off without these women and their Mean Girl Attitude.

For whatever reason, they clearly weren't too fond of you. But for that exact reason, you don't need them in your life!! Good riddance to them.

Friends can change and grow apart - while what they did perhaps didn't feel very nice, people are allowed to spend time with who they choose. TBH a friendship based on how much time we spend chatting on IG wouldn't really interest me, and it's good you have other real world friends.