Would you expect to catch up with this friend

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And be sad not to?

Two Best/v good friends for 2/3 years in a foreign country when young, 24 years ago, very intense, special friendship at the time. Friend A moves back to their home country on the other side of the world. Friend B goes to stay with them for 3 weeks soon after this, has nice time, but some issues with friend A being a bit difficult (can be hard work)
Four years later, friend A comes for a holiday at the country they lived in (friend B still lives) there
They meet up a couple of times, friend B gets sick, friend A very upset they didn’t see each other more, resentful about it and said this.
Both haven’t seen each other for 14/15 years, occasional messages over Fb, not much more, still consider that time a special time, but a long time ago.
Friend A has travelled back to the country they both knew each other in, for one week, very keen to meet up with friend B.

Do you think it should be expected that friend B should meet up and mean if they didn’t?

Anyone?

If friend B wants to remain friends it would be nice to meet up otherwise I can’t see the point of 14 years of occasional messaging.

I wouldn't expect to meet up with someone like hadn't seen for 15 years, no.

If its not too

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If it's not too much of a hassle for B to do this then if I were B I probably would meet for coffee or something. Nothing too major or long

I think you're overthinking it. If you think you'd enjoy a catch up, do. If not just say you're busy.

Either you meet up or you are no longer friends. It sounds like b is holding a grudge against a for being difficult, and that this is overshadowing the ‘special’ time they had.

Assuming you are B - do you want this friendship to remain in the past? I think that’s totally fair enough. But you need to accept that, act accordingly (no messages etc) and also accept that A might be upset for a while.

Personally speaking, I keep in touch with people. An old colleague of mine who moved back to her home country is visiting at Christmas and I’ve kept a couple of days free to fit in with her schedule. We worked together for a few months 10 years ago but I like her and I may never see her again, so why not?

but in your case I would probably send a message like, “So great that you’re visiting x. Sadly I’m not free on those days so I won’t get to see you. Hope you have a wonderful trip. I often remember our time together with a lot of fondness.”

She’ll be devastated

Does friend B want to see friend A, if B does then B should and B doesn’t want to then B needs to say that they won’t be getting together but wishes A a nice holiday.

@Christmaseason Friend A would be v v upset

That would be a massive overreaction and her problem to deal with.

Overthinking this. If you fancy a catch up then meet, if you don’t fancy it, don’t.