Very quick poll please! Should I sleep next to my DH tonight

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Very long story short , he keeps giving and withholding affection. This time last year he was all over me for 3 months. Like literally was making love to me twice a day. Fast forward a year, the last time we had sex was about two months ago, it was rubbish, and nothing since. have started to sleep in the spare room. Tonight is a bit different because we have a new bed, so on the one hand, I’m eager to try it out, for sleeping only obviously, but another part of me just wants to go into the spare room again. What would you do?

What I would do really depends on what happened before and what conversations you had about your sex life already.
I won't encourage you to go and look at my post earlier this week but I can only assume, based on my own experience, that you are going through a similar issue in the relationship. And so then I would say that the longer you leave it, the less chance you both will have at saving your relationship. I wish I wasn't quite so accommodating a year ago and insisted on doing something about our sex life and lack of time together earlier.
Do what feels right for you. Maybe put a new bed in the spare room and he can have your old one or maybe try to work through whatever is going on together. Only you can really know what you want to happen and a conversation will help you figure out if you and him want the same things.

Do you WANT this marriage to work? Is it a good one?

You need to both talk and stop game playing.

Whether you sleep in the same bed or not shouldn’t be connected to how intimate you are. This is all a bit ridiculous. If he’s gone off sex he’s probably not even clocked you’re sleeping in the spare bed because of that!

You've moved into the spare room and withdrawn closeness in order to coerce him into having sex he doesn't want/punish him for not having sex with you?

He should LTB.

So your DP is using affection as a means of control, so you've moved into the spare room and nothings been said and your biggest question is whether you should continue to sleep in the spare room or go in the new bed?

This is wrong on so many levels.

I am never so astounded by the shit that women put up (or dish out) with in their relationships until I come and read posts on here.