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My friends social media use is annoying

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Looneymahooney · 05/12/2024 15:48

My longest and bestest friend is a lovely woman, and I really value her friendship. In person, she is great to be around... I don't see her too often as she lives further away from me now. We voicenote all the time, and I obviously follow her on all SM.

The thing is, I can not stand her social media posts. Mostly on Instagram. She is constantly posting and subtley trying to show off. I feel I know this because I've known her so long and can read her well.

Some examples are:

She now lives in a large city, and nearly every post seems to hint or mention this city. I think she thinks she lives in a superior place, and the rest of us are farmers or something (obviously, she doesn't literally think this, but it's that kind of attitude)

She writes long, drawn-out posts about her MH. The other day, she posted a video of herself using a facial product and how this was her battling her MH.

She also tells me all about her dating life, which never seems to work out. Most guys will date her for a couple of weeks and then end it. She then posts loads on social media, and I just know it's to try and get the person she was datings attention (i think this is partially what might put them off in the first place).

She also likes to emphasise her middle- class ness (if that's such a thing). And it all seems so snobby.

What really annoys me is when she goes on the odd occasion to an art gallery (she isn't overly cultured), and she'll be posting all these photos of art on social media. She doesn't know a damn thing about art (I studied this area at uni - not that social media would know this)

There are so many other examples. Basically, it absolutely does my nut in, and sometimes I just want to come out and say what I think of it all.

I never do, though, and I am probably BU. Maybe I just needed to vent this here. I feel like if she didn't go on like this online, people she dates would also stick around more. But I couldn't tell her this... she's a very 'shoot the messager' kind of person.

I guess the best option is to mute her, but she'd definitely notice if I stopped watching all her posts, etc...

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TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 05/12/2024 19:14

You don't sound like her friend at all. There's no rule that says you have to be on her social media if you dislike what she says. But you come across as very judgemental. If that's the way you feel about her then perhaps its time to let go.

Ittakeslonger · 19/05/2025 23:09

I know you posted this a while ago but just want to say I get it. My oldest dearest friend, a lovely woman brags on social media about her achievements, her children's achievements, her new home in the country and her social life. I've come off Facebook to avoid how the posts make me feel. Unfortunately she's now moved to Instagram so I will have to avoid that too. I not keen on show offs and I she seems to curate a perfect life to show off.

Tbrh · 19/05/2025 23:29

Mute her. If she notices it, that's a good thing

PinkyFlamingo · 19/05/2025 23:55

Someone showing off on social media, I'm shocked!

thetrumanshow · 20/05/2025 00:21

Nothing stops you from doing the same on your own social media.
You are jealous of the picture she's making, you can do exactly the same.

If you didn't care, you'd just scroll down and ignore, or mute her.

I will voicenote maybe twice a day when I am free That's still a lot. Nothing wrong with that, I exchange more than this with my actual friends, but if she is irritating you that much, why do you stay so close?

Why do you even care if she is showing off? Because she makes you feel inferior? Otherwise an eye roll is enough, no need for such anger

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