To think I need a proper holiday as well

[Hemiola]

Not that I don't want answers from non teachers, but teachers sort of get this situation more...

Dh and I are both working ft except I'm teaching. I acknowledge I do have more time off than him but with 3 kids, I feel like I spend the holidays just catching up on life whereas when he's on holiday he actually rests.
Anyone else in this situation? I really don't mind picking up extra slack as his job is super stressful but feel like it's not recognised that I never get a proper break.
So who is unreasonable?

He is

He is. I've always felt this is super unfair when people go 'oh, I work term time only so that's us sorted for childcare!' And the other parent takes holidays as they please. I'd probably be insisting he takes his holidays during school hols where possible so you can split the load, or at least he takes a week to give you a proper break, and then takes a week in term time so he can have one!

So when is he taking his holidays and what does he do during that time?
Is it family holidays?

Good partnership is based on equal access to scarce resources, with three children a proper time off is obviously a scarce resource.

Err this. Why is he taking leave to chill out of his own?!

Why is he taking holidays outside of term time

Why is he not picking up the slack on these holidays so that you also can rest

His holidays should fall at the same time as yours so that you can share the load for those weeks. And if he has to take some outside of school holidays because they need to be shared out among staff, then when he is at home he should pick up more house work and when you are both off together, if he has whole weeks for himself then he should cover so that you can do the same.

The sad thing he isn't taking any time off over Xmas hols and he does really need a break so I do get it from his point of view. He does normally take holiday in school holidays.

So when is his break from both work and family stuff

I'm not a teacher but I take all my leave in the school holidays and spend it with the children. DH does the same, or occasionally takes it for DIY. I would be annoyed if things weren't balanced.

Sadly never!