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How to approach this at work? Starting to get to me.

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Pinkpaws97 · 05/12/2024 01:30

I have been there a couple of months or so.. this one particular colleague is starting to get to me. If I ever ask her a question, for example if it’s something I’m not familiar with, her answer will be condescending and sounding like she is trying to belittle me. I’ve stopped asking her things now but she will just give unsolicited input about things that I do already know or she’ll say something that I’ve already clarified elsewhere and actually today, she was wrong about what she’d said but she just always have to have an input and she seems quite ‘smug’ like she knows everything. She said ‘you might want to…’ after I’d gone and done something and actually what I had done was right but she was just giving an input, another member of staff said I had put it in the right place but she was trying to tell me other wise. It’s definitely not in a way of trying to help either and I know she has worked there a while and I think she feels like she has some sort of power over me. Today, she was discussing something with another colleague, they must have all arranged a night out separate to the work Christmas do as they were talking and it and were discussing about sharing taxis and then she did a face, realising I was sat behind she like mimed something, probably along the lines of oh she’s behind, oops she isn’t invited and she was like sniggering and the other colleague did a quite look behind at me and they quickly changed the subject about the night out.

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ScorpioRising83 · 05/12/2024 01:58

Ignore her, as in don't show her she's getting to you, but keep a diary. Eventually you may have enough to make complaint bout bullying, but that depends what your boss is like. In the meantime try to maintain good relations with everyone else and done tempted to talk negatively about her, that could backfire.

JMSA · 05/12/2024 02:12

God, there's always some smartarse colleague who's been there forever and thinks they know it all.
Next time she offers advice, just say 'yeah, I'm alright thanks' to shut her down in a polite-ish way!
Good luck.

Pinkpaws97 · 05/12/2024 09:02

Thanks, it’s an all female work environment so I expected it in some way as I’ve heard some things about this sector of work can sometimes be like this but most of my colleagues are helpful and I get on with them, but this one colleague seems to trying to make me feel ‘less than’ or something because I’m fairly new and she has been there for a long time

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