Finally realised I'll never be enough

[Thelittlemermaid1990]

Dh and I have been arguing for months. Probably years tbh. Dragged it out and stuck together for the children I think (9 & 4)

This weekend we had a massive argument. He called me the 'c' word more than once and told me not to talk to him for the rest of the.

Earlier in the week when I did something else that wasn't up to his standard he slammed a door so hard a picture fell off the wall and smashed. My fault for making him so angry.

Today when I tried to talk to him to sort things out he told me to leave him alone until he was ready to talk to me.

I realised today I am done. I will never be what he wants which is a quiet, subordinate wife who doesn't question anything and says yes to everything. That's not me.

Firstly, it's very easy to stay for the kids but they pick up on things that aren't right and it does more damage than good.

This man has anger issues and its only a matter of time before you are the one at the end of his fists. Hope you and your children get out of this relationship and you move on. Nobody deserves this. And I hope he wakes up one day and realises what he has lost! Get out before it gets worse.

Sending hugs xx

This sounds really tough.

Is this level of anger out of character? Any chance he is depressed or overwhelmed by something?

Have you thought about if this is abuse? Do you feel afraid of him when he's angry?

Much love x

No. He will never be enough...of a man. It's normal to disagree, even argue. My Aunt and uncle had one today in front of me after 55 years of marriage...they ended up laughing at each other...he needs to grow up and understand that arguments need to reach a mutual end.

You'll be doing more damage to your children by staying and keeping them in a hostile, angry, toxic environment, than if you seperated.

Please don't do that, you and the children deserve better. It'll be tough at first but things will be so much better for you all in the long run.

He’s done you a bit of a favour by being so angry and aggressive and unreasonable. Made it clear you need to end this. Time to go.

Are you able to get some legal advice? It will make you feel more empowered and in control whilst you decide when to make the break.

Or maybe he'll never be enough? I don't think you are the issue here are you?