Would you count this as a present?

[ellie09]

My fiance told me he was treating himself to a new TV (we dont live together yet but we will in the summer)

My TV is effectively on its way out, so I planned to get myself a new one eventually, but with Christmas etc, this has been put on hold.

Anyhow, he said he is bringing his old TV up (which is in good enough condition) and he told me he is classing it as part of my Christmas present.

However, I didnt exactly ask for it, and I was planning to get a new one in January.

AIBU to think this is a bit naff to pawn off as a Christmas gift?

He said part of your present. Don't be annoyed until you see what the other part is. Maybe it's something you'll really love.

I think the helmet for your son is great. And how much he saves is irrelevant as different people have different priorities when it comes to finances. In my family we only spend £50 per child on presents and £10 on each other, and put away £3k a month into savings. We are prioritising this to be mortgage free as quickly as we can. There's nothing wrong with not being a big spender.

It's not good enough for mum to use for 7 months until the planned sharing if stuff, but not only is it good enough for you, but he also wa nuts to class it as a present??

Ask him how that works!!

I think you also need to have a bloody good think about how he views you & whether you really want to live with this kind of thinking.

im pretty sure if you let him move in you'll be a regular thread starter!!

its not the tv, its thinking/attirude behind it.

It doesn't matter what the other part of her present is.. the problem is that his TV IS crap so he's bought a new one for himself (all good), but he thinks it's good enough for her AND shoukd count as a present!

Also if you are happy to share your details online to purchase, then sharing with police is nothing.

Don't move in with him. You'll be getting a mop for Christmas in a couple of years otherwise. Tell him his secondhand TV isn't exactly what you would call a Christmas present, then rethink the relationship. Honestly life with a tight man will seem to be very very long.

But why would you be happy with Primark pyjamas when you have spent so much more on him and he has more money than you? That is people pleasing to a ridiculous extent.

Make sure you are happy with financial arrangements & his contribution BEFORE he moves into your home.
Tell him he can have the first week of living in your home as his Christmas present.

I think this is the case too.

Agreed. It’s not a good sign.

Nope. A second hand tv he wants rid of does not count as a present.

So he's moving into yours. He earns more than you. And he giving you his crappy old tv that he doesn't want anymore as part of your Xmas present. You've got yourself a real catch there op. I'd think very carefully about letting him move in with you

Meanness is really not sexy. 😒 Cast-off telly, ffs.

I would not commit to him moving in next year until you see if he ups his game at Christmas.

when he is moving into mine in July, and the plan is to move his new TV into the living room and his current old one will be placed in our bedroom.

I would have laughed at him then! ‘You’re trying to give me your old telly as a Christmas present that you’ve already said you’ll bring into my bedroom when you move in?! Isn’t that a bit cheapskate?!’

Go order a new air fryer/ coffee maker or whatever you fancy replacing. Stick a bow on your old one and there’s his Christmas!

Could this be a hilarious joke on his part, and he’s actually going to give you an amazing gift?
if not he sounds mean and thoughtless, and not someone who I’d want moving in with me.