This is rude, yes?

[ChimneySweepLiverpool]

I have an acquaintance, let's call her Penny. I met Penny through a hobby earlier this year. She's lovely, she's been to my house for lunch once or twice. She disappears and reappears.

Two weeks ago she texted to say 'so sorry I haven't been in touch. Broke my foot....'. I passed on sympathies and she suggested we meet in two weeks time when she had the boot off. I suggested Thursday as I have the day off. No reply. No text since.

Am I unreasonable to book a nail appointment/coffee with another friend and deem our meet up not happening this week?

It's more socially acceptable to suggest a vague meet up in the future with non specific details than to say "God no I would prefer to stick pins in my eyes"

With people like this you need to text her in the morning and say, we arranged to meet tomorrow for lunch, are you still around? Let me know soon as you can. Thanks!
Some people have grand ideas for meetups and friends but when it comes to executing the plans it falls flat.

why not have a conversation with her FFS

• Hi, how are you? Still on to meet up on Thursday?

But the OP suggested a specific day—not the same thing.

@GhostInTheWashingMachine I would almost guarantee that Penny really isn't sat at home planning her outfit for tomorrow & isn't meeting @ChimneySweepLiverpool for coffee.
Direct dismissal of an invitation is considered rude.

Chill.

Sorry, read your OP too fast & thought it was you who suggested a definite day.

Yes, if she suggested it, she should have contacted you to confirm.

Not my op
Try reading it again maybe?

This is so true. It’s a way of ending a conversation “we must meet for a brew” but it’s rarely actually meant.

In seeing my word quoted I've just noticed I missed the word 'mean' out but the sentiment stands. Fingers slower than brain 😂

She's not planning to meet up with you, you can go ahead and make other plans.

Have a cup of tea and a sit down please. It's not that serious!

When I say I'll meet someone for a coffee I stick it in my calendar as I'll otherwise forget. Why bother texting someone to meet for coffee and then don't reply....just don't text the person in the first place 😂

@ChimneySweepLiverpool Take your own advice, don't text her, she's more than likely not going to text either. Problem sorted

I'd sack her off. It may suit her not to reply, but if you like certainty in your life and are organised, then it's an inconvenience. Drop her a line, say you are busy now, and wait forher to get her act together.

So did you get your nails done ?