To wonder is it better to meet parents at home or out for the first time?

[EvieR]

The caveat is my boyfriend of a year has met my mum but not my dad yet. So really it's meeting him for the first time.

Either we:

1. Have dinner out and see the Xmas lights etc in local area. Less focus on conversation/each other maybe

2. Have food here and watch a favourite Xmas movie. More relaxed?

Would you have any preference?

Also I'm very nervous because my dad is hard to please with my boyfriends!

I would prefer to meet out for a meal, it can sometimes feel awkward and there's no set end point doing it at someone's house

1 personally as it takes the focus off the individuals and, like you say, the conversation. I would choose an informal dining option though. Always think it's easier meeting new people whilst actually doing something iyswim.

I like no 1 - neutral ground.

I'd suggest pub meal and Christmas lights. Informal and plenty to talk about. Good luck

Well good job its you that needs to like him rather than your Dad then

Out for sure. You do t get to know anyone watching a movie.

1 - neutral. Everyone can leave or go theor own way if they want, if something is uncomfortable, there's an out. If you invite to the home, then the only way out is to throw the guest out.. which isn't the best.

Definitely 1. Why would you put everyone through the intensity of option 2.

First one - neutral territory and a meal somewhere informal, like a pub. Sitting in someone's home is more stressful when you've not met them before, plus you can't get to know someone during a movie as you shouldn't be talking!

Definitely 1.

Definitely 1

Absolutely 100% definitely option 1

Oh my god the watching a film at the house of someone you don’t know sounds excruciating.

Definitely mutual territory option!

Definitely scenario 1. Both parties can leave when they want to, there is no pressure on one party to be in "host" mode or the other party to feel on edge being in someone else's home. Also, how do you get to know someone watching a movie? A chat over dinner is great, a chat over a film is the worst!

We always go for neutral ground. DH and I did when meeting each other's parents (and introducing them to each other) and also when meeting DC's partners for the first time. But they soon ended up as fixtures in our homes.

We'd be at my house and I'm pretty sure everyone knows me 😀

Anyway it would be good and chat first then maybe a Xmas movie after.

It's looking like option 1...

I'd go out

It was actually my mum's suggestion! She thought it sounded relaxing...

Another person who agrees with option 1.

Is she a home body?
I guess it would be relaxing for her, but not others as it's not their home.

Definitely go out.

What does your boyfriend prefer?

I think she's somewhere in the middle!

Honestly I think she just likes the idea of someone else making the food, so going out still solves things hopefully! Thanks!

even if you host would avoid the movie!