Not supportive

[chillout1]

My GF says I don’t support her enough.

if she comes to me with a problem my first reaction is to ask for full disclosure, often I think she is wrong but take time to encourage her to see the other side. (Issues involving others not us)
After a short chat I’ll say “ I will 💯 support you in The decision you make as I now see you can see both sides clearly”.
(again even if I think she’s wrong)

she says I shouldn’t question her at all and if she come to me with something I should just shut up and support her.

Am I being unreasonable to want to her to see the other persons POV?

She's your girlfriend, not your kid. Whats with the bloody "teaching moment"? Making her talk about "the other person's side" seems dead off, like you're doing it to try and put her down or make her feel bad.

I will 💯 support you in The decision you make as I now see you can see both sides clearly

OMG how pompous you sound.

You do not need to do this. How long has this unfortunate woman been your girlfriend?

I'm quite surprised she bothers to come to you for any support. If my partner always tried to get me to see the other side of every bloody issue, I wouldn't be bringing him any problems, and I'd be considering whether I wanted to stay in a relationship with such a patronising twit.

Why do you need to show her the other person's side of things?
The other person has already done that. That's why she's come to you for support - not for judgement.

YABU.

Why do you always think she's wrong? And why is it your job to make her see the other person's side?

Do you always think women are wrong and need correction?

Are you always so misogynistic?

She's right, you're not supporting her enough, you're not supporting her at all.

Life advice from a woman who has been married almost 40 years--when she comes to you with a problem, she wants empathy, not a lecture. She is not asking for your expertise, she is asking you to listen. That is all.

Ok seems to have hit a Nerve so I’ll be more specific.

she promised to pay someone for something but when the bill came in she told them it was too much and refused to pay her share.

I explained to her that she promised and should pay it. (Her mistake for not finding out the price before)
The other person has already paid the whole thing (thinking they were getting 50% but form my GF).

She said I made her feel bad.

You said "often" implying this is somewhat happens more than once. You also said you'd support her once she'd seen both sides, and then give an example where she is clearly in the wrong.

We're not all as dizzy as her, you know...

Sometimes people don't want a solution, or to know who's right or wrong, they just want to be heard and validated. In that example you could have acknowledged how frustrating it is for your gf that the bill was higher than expected, and shown empathy and understanding for the situation she was now in.

Unfortunately most situations are like this, I said she is often “in the wrong “ IMO.

looking for some advice on how to deal with these situations and stay supportive.

or word it a better way, “ how do you support you partner when you think they are in the wrong?”

Well in the example you gave I wouldn't support her.

In fact, if my husband did that I'd tell him he'd been a twat and not to come crying to me. Pay up.

It is ridiculous to suggest that anyone should be blindly supported no matter what they'd done.

You can think she's in the wrong, let her know that, but still be supportive. You sound incredibly condescending, and entirely unsupportive.

"I know it's more than you expected, but you still need to pay it. Maybe next time double check how much the bill will be before you commit to paying half. Would X mind if you paid less than your half?"

That way you sympathise at the unexpected cost, remind her why she should pay it, and advise another option to make it easier. You don't have to say "Oh yes darling you shouldn't pay because you committed to something without knowing all the details and it's still not your fault because you are perfect"

Other examples would be helpful.

Is that your only example, OP?