Soo overwhelmed!

[professionaloverthinker]

Don't really know what I want out of this thread, just a place to vent I guess.

I am so overwhelmed at the moment with stress. I have a 9 month old who does not nap more then 20/30 minutes and wakes every 2/3 hours at night. 30 weeks pregnant (which was a massive shock but I'm happy about it) and my relationship just seems to be fading with my husband we constantly bicker over absolutely anything.

My 13 year old is at that age where he just does not listen to a word a say and wants to argue with every thing. Apparently the whole world is against him.

I'm back in touch with perinatal midwives as stress has lead to psychosis in the past. I'm just finding it tough right now.

Most 13 year olds think the world is against them (today they might be right...,) . Can you ask them to help or play with the baby so they feel more involved instead of being pushed out? Can they help with cooking? Mine like cooking chilli at that age.

Is your 9 month old moving (crawling, cruising, shuffling) yet? If no they might wear themselves out when they start. If yes they might be more hungry - can you feed them more solids or yoghurt etc?

Do you have any other relatives who could take the baby for a couple of hours so you could have one to one with either dc13 or dp? There used to be a charity called I think home start which helped overwhelmed mum's

Sympathy OP. My first was like this - never slept for more than 30-40 minutes in the day unless on me or being pushed in the pram (and would wake up within 5 minutes if i stopped moving). It was exhausting and it must be even more so when you are pregnant to boot.

Ask for help from friends and family to take the baby out for a couple of hours. If you can get a bit more sleep everything else is ever so slightly more manageable.

The world is definitely not against him. He's off to the Maldives for a week on Friday with his dad lol I get him involved lots at home it's definitely just an age thing I think.

9 month old is on the move so have upped calories but hasn't changed much to be honest.

Yes same with my son he can be fast asleep but as soon as the buggy stops he's wide awake 😂 I don't really like relying on others as it's my decision to have the babies. I know people have it a lot harder I just needed somewhere to get it out