To not want the Christmas tree up

[newmumabouttown]

We live in a small house so space is at a premium. Baby is 10 months old this month. I don’t want the Christmas tree up in the house as the only floor space is used as a play area and he’s started crawling so it’s just another hazard. As a compromise I was thinking of getting a small one to put on a countertop. Or we have the big tree up but only for a week.

DH is fuming and insisting on the tree. To also add, I’m fed up that he’s the one who insists on the tree up for as long as possible, but doesn’t help to get if from loft, decorate and pack away.

Thoughts?!

Sounds like you're living with 2 babies. If he wants a tree he can sort it himself can't he? He can think about the logistics, get a small tree for the countertop and get the decorations out and do it himself.

This if he wants a tree he can get it out and put it up/decorate it himself. Don't get it Don't sort it

Leave him to sort it and if he doesn’t realise there’s no space/baby will pull it over, let him crack on. Ridiculous.

You should put your tree up just before Christmas and take it down on January sixth ( and it’s a man job…..)

He wants a christmas tree? Tell him to go ahead and knock himself out.

My first thing would be, if he wants the tree up, it's his job! all of it,getting it from the loft, decorating, and tidying it all, every time, and putting it all away. If it's left to me it's not getting out the loft.

Can't demand a job that makes my life harder and then expect me to do it.

As PP have said, if he wants the tree, he needs to sort it himself. To be fair to him, I would be sad not to have a tree at all at Christmas, but on the other hand, a tree with a baby can be a nightmare so I see your side too.

Could a compromise be a small potted tree put on a high table that baby can't reach? We don't have a spot for a full-size tree in our living room so we got a small potted one from Lidl, it's very festive.

He wants it he sorts it.
As a side baby might not be interested, mine never pulled at the tree.
I get the play space thing though, he needs to figure something out there too, leave it to him.

He's fuming !?

doesn’t help to get if from loft, decorate and pack away.

I mean, the solution is pretty clear. "No". And scene.

Ours doesn’t usually go up til 18th as it’s DH’s birthday on 17th and he has a chip on his shoulder about his birthday being rolled up with Christmas as a kid - this year I’m not bothering at all , I’m recovering from surgery and bad infection and the lounge would need furniture moved to accommodate it - can’t be arsed

If he wants a tree then he sorts it out . I love my trees , couldn’t imagine not having them .

Preachhhhh, thank you all! I’ll be insisting he sorts it all, and I love the idea of a table top tree if our large one is too impractical.

Space is also at a premium in our house so last year we opted for a “ladder tree” a bit like this image. It does the job! If he wants the full tree then let him crack on with it!

A man who actually gives a damn about a Christmas tree is rare, and not in a good way.

Well, you can't stop him if he gets it down, decorates etc. But make sure you don't.

And if he does, hand him the baby and take yourself out for the day.

YANBU and I can't figure out when 1st December was tree putting up time. Ours isn't going up until 14th. Not because I'm a scrooge, it's just we keep it up until the 6th and I think 3 weeks is plenty.