Rules for life

[mumda]

Am I being unreasonable asking you to help create some general guidelines for life?

This is what I've got so far this morning. Perhaps I should read fewer threads on mumsnet?

1. Don't lend friends money
2. Don't lend family money
3. Call 111 if you can't get a GP appointment and you're increasingly unwell.
4. If you think he's cheating, he probably is.
5. If you catch him cheating, he'll do it again.
6. If he hits you, leave.
7. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
8. You get what you pay for,
9. If you don't need it, don't buy it.
10. All governments are stupid, some are more stupid than others.

never cross a picket line

Be generous - money comes and goes!
Lend to those you trust, what is meant for you will always come to you!

Absolutely!!!

Moderation in all things.

My golden rule is: never get involved with other people's arrangements. It never lets me down!

This sounds oddly specific.

Mine is one of the many variations of ‘don’t do things for people that they wouldn’t do for you’.

Don’t take shit from any man. Sure, they should know how to behave and do their share. But many don’t know how or care to, so it’s on you to want more for yourself.

Don’t burn yourself out for any job. Everyone is replaceable.

I live in a poorer area than most on here. People couldn't get by without lending each other money, so I don't agree with that one.

Grab what happiness when you can, where you can. Don't expect others to do it for you. So if you want a day out/something specific for your Birthday etc, organise it yourself.

Don't be afraid to travel/go the theatre alone, it's great not having to compromise.

Don't put things off, we aren't guaranteed the future or our health.
I am a carer and help out neighbours, but I really think about what I can give, so we all know were we stand. So never promise what you can't deliver.

Tell no lies, take no shit
Trust no one
Look after number one
Never rely on anyone else for money or a roof over your head
If you don't understand it, don't sign it

You can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.

Happiness is very often a choice; you can decide to be happy.

A lot of problems can be solved by healthy food, sleep, exercise, and contact with other life forms (humans, other animals, plants, nature). This is simple but NOT easy.

Don't look at your phone when you are with a friend

Don't ditch your family and friends, as is so often recommended on this forum and in self help books- figure out how you can be with them without hurting yourself. (I am going to skip the usual disclaimer about abuse, because that is obvious).

If you genuinely want to keep something secret, don't tell anyone else

Don't sweat the small stuff

Pick your battles

Always hand wash your bras (even just on the machine's hand wash/gentle in a bag).

Don’t waste your life doing things you don’t want to do because it’s expected of you.

Help where you can but remember you deserve help too!

you'll go back on most of the things you says you’d never do

fun happens when you least expect it

anything that is claimed to be the best time of your life won’t, but one is on the horizon

Exams aren’t everything

Go with your gut

communication is so important

Also have to add I don’t agree with not lending money- we’d be homeless if it wasn’t for help from family, and we’ve made sure to pay them back and help them since

Do not treat others as you would like them to treat you, they may have entirely different tastes.
If anyone tells you that what is meant for you will not pass you by just answer “bollocks.”

Yes! I would add only lend what you can afford to lose.

DM haa got me out of many a sticky situation with a small loan. We are now going on holiday together and this time I have paid for her but she will pay me back.

Don’t lend any money that you want back.

You don’t have to be good at something to do it.

It doesn’t matter if you feel the fear as long as you do it anyway!

Family are the people who act like it.

When it comes to breakups or relationship breakdowns, operate a strict no returns policy.

Always tell the truth, so you never have to remember anything.

PS @DaringlyDizzy I like the name. Are we related? 🤣

Treat other people as you would like to be treated.

Don’t ever, ever, ever, buy anything when it is presented as a time limited offer.

Edited to say: property excluded!

You already have what you’re seeking: it’s right under your nose

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Love this along with the Op!

100% agree with this one @cooliebrown

( agree with lots of the others too, but felt this one needed noting!)

Career-wise:

Don’t underestimate the power and potential of being ready and present.

Or the power of being a problem-solver for your boss.