Toddler came home with bruise under eye-woke up from nap like it

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Hi all, nursery have no idea how it happened. Do I need to do anything with this? She’s a very active mobile child so could happen. Thanks

I wouldn’t be happy about it.
Is it a good nursery? Are they switch on? Attentive with the little ones? Enough staff?

I remember viewing a nursery to sound it out before sending my DS there.

There was literally a rough brawl going on with 4 boys behind the staff member, who was totally oblivious to it, because she was too dense to position herself, so that she could see everything.

Getting a bruise under the eye is not a normal everyday type of injury (like say bruised shins) so I would not be happy about the lack of explanation.

I am an ex CP social worker. I would say under the eye is a fairly normal place to get a bruise. Toddlers swing toys around . Just imagine for instance two children tussling over a book and one pulls harder releasing it and getting the corner of it under the eye. The problem places are behind the ears, between the thighs and on the upper, inner arms etc.

Yes, that's my point, that it would be likely caused by some kind of fight or accident - a hand or object hitting the face - and therefore there is inadequate supervision that either no one saw it happen or the nursery are minimising problems like overcrowding or understaffing at the nursery. I wouldn't worry if the toddler had bruised shins because that could be caused by just ordinary playing.

@Owly11 There is no way nursery staff can watch every single thing a child does. She could have done it to herself by accident.

If there was a pattern of it happening repeatedly with your child/ other parents were commenting about similar issues with their own kids then I would want to speak to the nursery to have them explain their safeguarding policy, but as a one off I really wouldn’t give it another thought!

Is it a bit puffy as well? If they sleep on mats on the floor it could be an irritation type reaction from dust?
DS1 once had allergic conjunctivitis that looked like a black eye after rolling about on a big rug all afternoon at PILs.

As a one off not noticing how it happened then I think it's reassuringly honest. What are the ratios, 1:4? I know if I was looking after 4 toddlers running around playing etc I'm not going to notice every single thing they did. It could easily been self inflicted pulling something apart or walked into something. The skin around the eyes is thin, fragile and bruises easily so it might have just been a light impact that didn't cause much distress at the time.

If I was otherwise happy with the nursery I wouldn't be worried/feel I needed to do anything.