to expect 11 yr old ds to behave at school for just once, ggrrrrr

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School have just phoned to say they have had a difficult day and ds is to be excluded for tomorrow and Thurs.

He went back last Weds after being excluded for 3 days, one day before Easter break and 2 days after.

He has ADHD with autistic traits so isn't the easiest of children, but my god, I want part of my life back and not have to sit in all day with my poor dd of 21 mths cos I know that as soon as I venture out somewhere that the school will ring me.

Sorry rant over but it gets to me sooooo badly that I feel I can't do anything and that he should be at school all day everyday and I can enjoy some time with dd.

Oh poor you and also poor DS really.

Is the recent behaviour linked to his ADHD do you think? If it is then the school really should be better equiped at dealing with him. Does he have a statement?

YANBU at wanting part of your life back and it must be very upsetting.

I hope you have a reasonable couple of days at home and that he does learn something from being excluded.

(You may be as well to post this in the special needs forum as well.)

His behaviour is linked to his ADHD and he is statemented.

He had a helper within the clasroom but she left and they are in the process of getting a new helper. Atm he has a classroom asssistant from another part of the school to help him.

The days will be long I can tell you and no he probably won't learn anything from being excluded otherwise it wouldn't keep happening.

I feel like just getting up and leaving it all behind sometimes.

Oh dear, is there another school nearby that might be better equiped to help him? What has he done to get excluded?

It sounds to me as though the school are just not coping with a child who has the type of special needs your son has, and I feel very for you. Perhaps he has been unerved by having a different classroom assistant?

I have a four year old with SN and am dreading him being in full time school for this reason.

I can totally understand that the days will drag and seem never ending, and how sad that nothing will have been achieved for it!