Ghosted and feeling sad

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That’s it really…..met someone, had a couple of dates, he seemed really interested (always messaging, really sweet and affectionate etc) until he suddenly stopped and has now blocked me. No idea why, can’t figure it out. Is it too much to ask for someone to say they have just changed their mind? Is it not just basic respect?

I’m a single parent (6yr old son), my confidence was already massively knocked by my son’s dad having an affair while I was pregnant/postpartum, now I feel really bad about myself.
Someone please tell me I am better off by myself than with someone who thinks ghosting is acceptable…..

Perhaps his wife/girlfriend rumbled him? Likely nothing to do with you, and you’ve made a lucky escape!

It's always really shitty when someone you were getting along with does this. But he's also shown you who he is. Would you really want to be in a relationship with someone who can't communicate, doesn't care about your feelings and is immature?

So many of us have been there. It's horrible especially when you think things are going well.

It's them not you and you ARE better without them. This is their reality - unreliable, thoughtless with no morals or bollocks.

Also be prepared for them to unblock and contact you further down the line unexpectedly!

You'll have all the cool women telling you it shouldn't bother you OP but I would be hurt too. It doesn't matter if they don't owe you anything, it's still nice to just not be a twatty human being. Ghosting is a terrible way to treat someone!

Deep breath and move on, he's not the one for you. After a long relationship ended I went out with someone for six months who then ghosted me. Next time I heard from him (by text) was a year later, by which time I had met now DH to whom I've been married for twenty years. Don't give him any headspace!

It is hurtful and something to process. But I think you've had a lucky escape here. His behaviour indicates cowardice.

To be honest, this type of stuff is so common and why I am giving dating a pass right now, a few nice dates, but then this comedown. Like a hangover after drinking alcohol.
I think my kids, and me, deserve a better verdion of me than the irritated upset person I become when this stuff happens.
For me, exercise, a meal out with friends, investing in myself, is a guaranteed return on investment. I am genuinely much happier in myself now that I have have stopped pursuing relationships with men.
Not saying I have sworn off men forever, but I am.not seeking it out as if something is 'missing' from my life. Another positive is now I am happy with myself, my standards are higher, as someone would need to add to my life, and definitely not disturb my peace. I look around at what's available and I am put off, rather than trying to talk myself around into the compromises I could make, to 'make something work'.

Sorry for my typos! In conclusion, you are so much better off on your own than dating these losers.

Don't take it personally, he's obviously a dick if he hasn't got the decency to message you and say sorry, this isn't going to go anywhere, best wishes! Look upon it as a lucky escape 💐

How horrible and hurtful. I'm sorry that happened to you. Take it as a sign that he really isn't a good person and you've had a lucky escape.