To not want to write DCs name and address on the back of the envelope?

[BabyDoge]

We've just written DCs Santa letters. I'm wanting to send them to the address provided by Royal Mail, as you get a response from Santa in the post. I've just had a look on their site and apparently you have to write your child's full name and address on the back of the envelope.
Given all the warnings about safeguarding, surely this isn't a good idea? I made a thread the other day about buying DS a football kit and was warned not to put his name on the back. Surely a letter addressed to Santa with a child's full name and address on the back is even worse?
Has anyone else sent a letter off? Did you put the name and address on the back or would it be enough just to put it inside on the letter itself?

You're over thinking this

Put your own name and address. (Ok, same address, but so what?)

It's so they can reply without opening all the letters I expect. I don't suppose any one is going to sit and open 1000s of letters and certainly not read them.

Does it also worry you when their bank statements, medical appointments etc arrive in the post?

The reasoning for not having names on clothes is so someone can't say "oh Fergus, your Mummy asked me to pick you up today, I'm her friend".

A name and address on an envelope is not a safeguarding concern, it will after all be followed by a letter to him.

No that doesn't worry me, because they don't know that whether "John Doge" is my son, my husband or my dad. But a letter addressed to Santa is going to be clearly from a child.

Weird. Doesn't all post have their address on?

Unless you think a postie is going to start taking photos of names and addresses....that they have access to anyway when they deliver your mail...

And when its gets to its destination, they'd have the info on or in the envelope.

The point about not naming clothing/bags is to prevent strangers approaching your child and making out they know them.

Op
There are some instances where you need to weigh the pros and cons. What do you think the odds are that someone will take down your child’s name and successfully groom them by post?

A birthday card will have your child's name and address on the envelope.
So would lots of other things.
You are over thinking this. A lot.

OP, so you normally suffer from such anxiety?

Bloody hell! So Santa is grooming children now??? 😱😂

OP...get a bloody grip!

This is where the concept of risk and 'safeguarding' has resulted in people losing all sense of perspective and not even actually understanding what they're worried about, talking about

Any child is far far more at risk of people they know, particularly Im afraid their fathers or step fathers, than anyone else.

How do you expect to get a response back if you don’t give them her name and address?

The post will only be seen by the post office staff, who see the outside of every letter from school, utility bill, birthday card etc.

Unless you want to send all your post to a post office box (if they still exist?) .

Thank you for this. I wasn't sure whether they addressed the letter to the child, but I think I will do this to make me feel better.

Yes. It's a problem I am seeking help for, but DH has lost a bit of patience with me so I can't really go to him for a sense check anymore.

Don't your children receive birthday cards and so on with their name and address on?

If you put your name won't the personalised letter have your name in it?

The fact that your DH has also 'lost a bit of patience with you' ought to tell you that your grip has well and truly been lost OP.

Agree. And I would get a child a football kit with their name on it. Isn't that the whole point?

If it helps they gave up with my full name so just addressed it to child's first name so I reckon that would work

Yes when you say it rationally like that it makes me sound silly 🙈 I think I was more worried about someone untoward at the local sorting office being able to see it's a child's letter, and being able to note their name and address without having to disturb the letter.
I take the point PPs are making about birthday cards etc but as I said before, a birthday card they wouldn't know if the recipient is 5 or 50. A Santa letter they will.

If you put your name on the outside presumably the Santa letter will start ‘Dear Mrs BabyDoge, have you been good this year?’.

You won’t be able to give it to your child because it will be written to you.

Or that DH isn't a very empathetic and supportive man, but that's not the purpose of this thread.

Do you recieve letters addressed to parent/guardian of Child Bloggs?