Happy birthday to me

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Well I had to say it as no one else seems to be much bothered. I got 2 cards from work - which is lovely. But nothing from my family and nothing from my friends - not even something on FB.

DH hasn't managed to do anything other than say happy birthday once today as he's in a depressive slump. I thought he'd bought me a present but not sure what's happened with that. He admits he didn't buy a card and given his fragile state all I can say to him is that it doesn't matter.

Does rather bring one down though.

Sorry - grumble over.

Happy birthday to you! Can you treat yourself to a nice takeaway and bottle of wine tonight? I had a crap birthday this year too so I know how rubbish it feels. Hope you can make the most of the rest of today though xx

Happy Birthday!
December is a rubbish time to have a birthday because everyone is distracted by Christmas.

Happy Birthday , agree with pp , treat yourself xx

Happy birthday and do something nice. It's very selfish of others if you remember their birthdays and make an effort for them. Doesn't matter that it's December

I'm so sorry OP!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂 🎉

Hope you treat yourself to something lovely (and send your DH the bill 😂)

Happy Birthday, sorry your dh is so rubbish

Happy birthday! I also had a pretty crap birthday this year.

Have you got your date of birth set to ‘public’ on FB? I admit to only sending a happy birthday message on Facebook if Facebook reminds me it’s someone’s birthday.

Both DH and I have hid our DOB so neither of us gets FB birthday wishes from anyone.

To be fair my friends etc and wider family often don't remember my birthday, I'm not on social media etc.

But your husband should have made the effort, whether he's feeling crap or not it doesn't seem like he's incapable of a gift and trying to make the day a bit nice for your sake.

Happy Birthday OP! I agree with a PP get yourself a takeaway and a nice bottle of wine. Maybe even some pamper bits and make a night of it.

I had a rubbish one this year too, it's not nice feeling like nobody cares

Happy Birthday!! 🥂🍾🎂 🥳

im sorry your family & friends haven't even messaged you Happy Birthday!!

also sorry to hear your DH is in a bad way & how that's affecting you too! (Your reply is kind xx)

I live alone, my Mum is overseas. So although I get texts etc no one organises anything for me, so if I want to celebrate I have to organise something myself & as I'm single it's a bit 'meh'.

this year was more than usually shit though as it's the first year my Great Aunty hasn't sent me a card. Dementia has started and I'm broken by it. (The dementia not the actual card)

it's getting late in the day now, but try to do something nice for yourself (would DH be good company if you booked a restaurant for dinner? Any friends you'd like to invite? Or a nice takeaway you wouldn't usually splurge on?

Happy Birthday OP.

Ignore your H and indulge yourself as much as you can today.

🎂

Happiest birthday!!!

Well that's really shit, OP… I understand DP is depressed but he needs to know that you’re hurt and disappointed. The nature of his illness leaves you feeling isolated and carrying the can enough as it is. He should be able to do better than this and you would like him to make up for it please.
Better friends. Where the fuck are they? You need to pull right back. They need to show that they’re there for you.
I feel very strongly about this because this was me. When DH “forgot” my 40th bday, that was the last straw. I told him I was sick of excusing him and he was on notice to start noticing me and start treating me like a valued member of the family - Hell, he happily bought the dog treats when he went to the shops…. He remembered his staff members birthdays…..He told me I was overreacting, so I said that he would find out how it felt.
He obviously didn’t believe me. His birthday was five months later. I didn’t wind the kids up and excite them about his birthday. No cakes appeared. No breakfast was cooked. In fact, I had an unexpectedly early shift and he had to get the kids organized for school. Oh, and I was going out after work with some colleagues, so he’d have to pick them up and take them to gymnastics, finish early so the twins could get their booster shots and then get their dinner sorted. Silly sap asked what was for dinner…. I said “I dunno… McDonald’s? You work it out. I’m working all day.” kissed the kids and pottered off.
Now, we were expats. We had moved for his job. He knew where the school was, but not gymnastics, not the doctor or even the fucking McDonald’s. I had to ignore so many texts…. He grovelled and asked so many mum friends and embarrassed himself, it was great!
I was spoiled silly for Christmas and he has never forgotten another bloody birthday because I refuse to be a mouse.

YANBU. Everyone is shit. Hope you have / manage to do something nice for yourself today. I'd post on FB wishing myself a happy birthday, to see who can be drawn out. But you shouldn't have to.

I thought my birthday was obvious on FB. Although I may have put the wrong year as a small block to scammers.

What annoys is that my oldest brother's birthday was 2 days ago and we have joked for decades about how hard done he was when instead of getting a proper 6th birthday party with all his friends our mom was rushed off to have me. If anyone should remember it should be him.

I changed my birth year to 1901 to stop advertising & scammers and it worked a treat!

Happy birthday to you OP💐

Belated happy birthday greetings, OP.

If a pretty miserable one this year, perhaps focus on how NEXT year's could be different. And the steps needed to make something really enjoyable/indulgent a reality.

You shouldn't be the one putting in the effort, of course, but it sounds like nobody else can be bothered.

Bro sent an email at about 6 pm. Fair enough as it was 10 am for him. Nothing from other siblings.

And an old work colleague posted a greeting on FB which prompted another friend to add to it - which was nice. But still surprised at some of the others that have missed my day. A bit precious of me perhaps but I do try to give a shout for their birthdays.