I left my abusive ex when I was in my early pregnancy as his abuse got so much worse. Because I left him, post separation abuse is no joke and it escalated to the point of him making threats on my life, to set my home on fire with me (pregnant me) in it, and that his friends all knew where I lived so they were going to come and beat me up. This is among other threats, other daily verbal abuse and stalking etc. I lived in fear and when lockdown hit , I was so terrified so I moved to a home where he has no idea where I lived.
It’s been over 5 years and we’ve been through court and everything and my address has still been kept from him for safety reasons. I have to ‘coparent’ with him and he continues to be abusive and controlling. He doesn’t like the fact that he doesn’t know where my son lives with me. I get that to an extent as I would want to know where my child is living, but for my protection I don’t want him to know.
Anyway, he has specifically brought a tablet for our son with cellular data and has made a point of telling him to bring it home. His dad told me he has all the parental stuff set up on his phone. He’s had previous tablets at his dad’s house - none of which he allowed our son home with. But because this one has cellular and he made a point to tell me that and that he has the tablet controls on his phone - I’m pretty sure he has set it up so our son would bring it home and it would track our location.
I panicked before even leaving and immediately turned the tablet off before setting off home as I didn’t want to take the risk. I’m still stressing thinking it can be tracked even if turned off. His abuse has got so much worse recently as child maintenance have set a date for tribunal (he’s self employed and claims he doesn’t have an income), and also because I have set boundaries. He often will ask for contact the day before occasions and because I tell him no, but he’s welcome to ask in advance in the future - he will kick off. He also will kick off because he expects me to communicate school occasions for him - I’ve told him he’s welcome to read the newsletters for himself, he doesn’t and kicks off at me for ‘not keeping him updated’ when he misses things. He will ‘punish’ me by ignoring messages when I ask if our child is asleep - he’s autistic and a poor sleeper, that’s the only thing I message about during his contact every other weekend.
I guess I’m rambling, but my point is the fact that his abuse has continued despite me not being with him, I’m not sure if I’m being overly paranoid about him tracking the tablet. I just have a bad feeling that if he knows my address the abuse would be coming to my front door and I’d feel unsafe in my home again. I have cptsd and I’m on edge all the time as it is.