To not want to let my sons dad see him at Christmas

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Long story short as this same scenerio has happened before 2 years ago..

My 7 year olds Dad works in the army and sees son unreliably EOW. A week before DS birthday in September when I was picking him up his DF told me he was being posted abroad and wouldn't know when he would be back. Apart from a text on DS birthday I have had no contact from what so ever. However, as he has done this before I knew he was lying about working away.. He plays for a football team locally and he has been on the team lineup each week and scoring goals ect, even one on his sons birthday when he text wish he could see him! Now suddenly as soon as the christmas period comes he as text me asking to see son next weekend as he is 'back from working away this week and wants to see him'

During the time he's been gone and my son as asked about him I have just told my son daddy is working away and said he will see you when he gets back.. I have never told him the truth that his dad is actually just living his normal life and not wanting to see him, as this would hurt him... I've made plenty of plans throughout December and Xmas day and now his dad will expect to see son on Christmas day... But I'm thinking why should he get to see him when he's been lying about being away the whole time. Why should I cancel our Christmas day plans cause he suddenly wants to be a dad again??

I haven't replied to his text yet as I'm unsure what to do. I want my son to see his dad but I also don't want the dad to think he can just pick and choose when he sees him and lie....
Thank you for any advice... X

Poor man, he must be exhausted working all week and then having to fly back to England every weekend and play a strenuous game of football. I hope you congratulated him on scoring a goal, at least.
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I think you need to show him the screenshots and have a serious talk with him — if you even want this selfish liar in your son’s life.

No I do t want him in my life to be honest, he is a compulsive liar, lies about everything, always has. But, my son thinks the sun shines out of his arse for some reason so until he is old enough to see for himself how his dad lies then guess in my life he stays 🙄

Was it definitely him playing football? A local team to us some years ago had a couple of players play under different names of other players on their team. I can't remember the reason why, something to do with injuries I think but one got caught out and then there was a bit of a hoo ha over it!

I'd be screen shotting all his fixtures and evidence he was at each game with a message saying suggest or explain this to me and your son before I let you anywhere near him at Christmas

Call his bluff. Doubt he's the sort to actually take you to court and I'm sure they'd take a dim view of his lies anyway

This is what I keep thinking but I wouldn't know how to find this out cause I bet they wouldn't tell me if I rang!
But my ex has done this before and pretty much admitted it when I called him out on it last time...