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Original poster

I am BU, and a bitch!

34 replies

Scareofgettingthiswrong · 01/12/2024 10:19

We moved house 2 months ago. The old landlord was rubbish-I mainly had to fix things myself, as the property was part of a portfolio and he lived “too far away” to come and fix them, but wouldn’t pay for contractors.

I left the property clean and in good condition, and had the carpets cleaned before we left. The landlord still has not organised collecting my keys, but has his own set.

The neighbour has been texting me saying that the whole house is dripping in condensation and needs airing and the heating putting on, or the inside will mould, and that I need to get in touch with the landlord and go and heat and air it.

AIBU to think this isn’t my problem any more? We were at that house 3 years, it caused nothing but problems, and I am so glad to be rid of it. We never once missed a rental payment and kept it in good repair, so am I ok to see my duty as discharged?

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TheFlis · 01/12/2024 10:20

Your old neighbour sounds strange. Just remind them you don’t live there any more so it’s not your problem.

angelopal · 01/12/2024 10:21

Give her the landlords number and say she can contact him directly.

Stormyweatheroutthere · 01/12/2024 10:21

We have just left a property much worse.. I predict by the time she sees the place the kitchen ceiling will have come down again. It's not my problem.. She sent 2 pissed lads to plaster it one December... They hadn't a clue..

Screenthis · 01/12/2024 10:22

Send them the owners number and tell them you're not longer their neighbour.

PonyPatter44 · 01/12/2024 10:22

Have you had your deposit back? Has the tenancy formally ended? If that's the case this is literally nothing at all to do with you. If you were feeling kind, you could email the landlord and let him know, or give the neighbour his details so they can communicate directly. But this is none of your business, assuming your tenancy has ended.

Onlyvisiting · 01/12/2024 10:24

Have you had your deposit back? If you are financially free and clear then I wouldn't even think about it. Surely if your tenancy is ended you would be breaking in to go back now anyway? Tell her to text the landlord

JJLA · 01/12/2024 10:24

Not your problem.

Just give her your LL’s number and tell her to contact him.

And why are you a bitch? Did your neighbour call you one?

purpleme12 · 01/12/2024 10:24

Just text her back saying your tenancy's ended
Simple

purpleme12 · 01/12/2024 10:26

Has your tenancy actually ended? Or is your post missing some vital information? I wrote my post assuming that the tenancy had ended

Original poster
Scareofgettingthiswrong · 01/12/2024 10:29

Tenancy ended on the 31st September, and deposit is back and with our new landlord.

The neighbour is odd, she always has been.

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purpleme12 · 01/12/2024 10:30

Ok so just text back and think no more about it

Original poster
Scareofgettingthiswrong · 01/12/2024 10:30

@JJLA she said it was my “duty” to sort it, so I feel like a bitch/responsible if I just ignore it.

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BeNavyCrab · 01/12/2024 10:31

Answer her that you aren't legally allowed to enter the property as you aren't a tenant any longer, if you can be bothered. Otherwise just ignore it.

purpleme12 · 01/12/2024 10:31

Of course you're not a bitch and you're not responsible

Just text back saying tenancy has ended so it's nothing to do with me

Wendysfriend · 01/12/2024 10:32

If you've got your deposit back and your tenancy ended you block her number, you've no reason to keep in touch

NewPanDrawer · 01/12/2024 10:32

Scareofgettingthiswrong · 01/12/2024 10:29

Tenancy ended on the 31st September, and deposit is back and with our new landlord.

The neighbour is odd, she always has been.

In which case you going into the flat for any reason at all without clear permission from the landlord is trespass!

Original poster
Scareofgettingthiswrong · 01/12/2024 10:33

You have all put my mind at rest, thank you!! Xxx

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GrandHighPoohbah · 01/12/2024 10:34

Any "duty" you had to the property ended with your tenancy. Pretty much every person in the country would understand that. Does she somehow not get that you're not the owner? I would just block her.

Anotherworrier · 01/12/2024 10:34

angelopal · 01/12/2024 10:21

Give her the landlords number and say she can contact him directly.

I wouldn’t even do that.

gamerchick · 01/12/2024 10:34

At the very least, if I wanted to do anything. I'd give her the landlords number. As payback for being such a shit landlord... She can pester him to her hearts content.

Or just block her number.

JJLA · 01/12/2024 10:35

Scareofgettingthiswrong · 01/12/2024 10:30

@JJLA she said it was my “duty” to sort it, so I feel like a bitch/responsible if I just ignore it.

You are not a bitch for having boundaries. Women have been so conditioned to please that we call ourselves derogatory terms for doing nothing wrong. Don’t be so harsh on yourself.

weatherisjustmist · 01/12/2024 10:35

It's clearly not your duty, as your tenancy has ended. Just block her number.

TiredCatLady · 01/12/2024 10:36

To your previous neighbour “you’ll be wanting to tell someone who gives a fuck”.

If your useless ex LL doesn’t give a toss about the state of their property then that’s up to them.

noctilucentcloud · 01/12/2024 10:40

It's not your problem. However, I would organise getting the keys back to the landlord as soon as possible - maybe by contacting the landlord and saying that as they haven't responded you'll post them through the door on x date. I think that would cover you in case the landlord started being unreasonable about you still having them (or saying you'd accessed the property) and it'd mean you could completely draw a line under that property and the landlord.

Wrinkleyoldbag · 01/12/2024 10:40

Post the keys back through the letter box, it’s not your problem now.