To think I may have some sort of mental disorder

[twentytwentyfour2024]

Hi guys,
The subject is pretty out there I know, but hear me out please.

At first, I thought may have adhd but as time goes on it seem it could be more. I'm wondering if anyone has a condition/knows of anyone with a condition with my symptoms?
Certain things that I have noticed in myself are:

I am highly up or down depending on literally one person

I want things until I get them then novelty wears off

I am quite promiscuous (I know it is wrong but I take pride in knowing I'm good in bed as if it is a goal in life)

I can absolutely love a partner to death until a disagreement, then I want to call it off and never talk to them again and feel I don't love them

I take EVERY little thing to heart and it gets me down for days and makes me highly dislike the person who made me feel targeted

I feel everyone speaks bad about me behind my back and had very low opinions of me

Any idea? I'm almost 30 this needs sorting it's like being a toddler trapped inside a woman I need to sort myself out. Thanks

@RandomMess Sorry this happened to you. I am currently campaigning against this very issue - women having diagnosis put upon them without their knowledge or consent, most often ‘BPD’ which is a sexist construct in of itself. It often serves to allow medical professionals to gaslight women and their experiences of trauma, and also poor care received. You are well within your rights to request that this diagnosis is removed from your records.

That's horrendous. I hope you're doing better now.

Lots of these can be ADHD traits, but there is a lot of crossover between various forms of neurodiversity so an armchair diagnosis is always going to be very difficult. Have you ever tried to pursue formal disgnosis?

I'd get an autism assessment before looking at EUPD. There are far too many women who have been diagnosed with EUPD when they're autistic.

@twentytwentyfour2024 do you have a history of childhood trauma? It sounds like trauma response.

I do yes

Hi, psychologist here.

My advice would be to go to your GP, or to self-refer to a local talking therapies service (if self-referral is an option in your area) to ask for some further support.

Although there are lots of well-meaning suggestions on this thread, you need to be able to share additional relevant information about your experiences/history etc. with a professional. They can then work with you to understand what might be going on for you, and what the best options are to move forwards.

There are a number of symptoms of MH conditions which can closely link to each other. There are also symptoms which appear to be due to one condition, but which could actually be another condition (e.g., ADHD) combined with trauma/PTSD/low self-esteem/physical health etc. As others on this thread have mentioned, this can sometimes be mis-diagnosed as EUPD, for example. A good mental health professional will not simply take your reported symptoms at face value, but will work with you to understand if there's anything which is underlying/exacerbating things and try to get a more nuanced and in-depth understanding to make sure you can get the right treatment and support.

I do agree with an earlier comment that you seem very self-reflective, and when I see clients, people often find it easier to critically engage with/explore their symptoms and experiences when they are reflective.

Best of luck, OP.

Thanks guys. Can I just ask, how do I go about booking in with therapy via my GP? I simply can't afford private 😢

Have you considered speaking to your GP?

Usually the GP would refer you.

You sound like my partner with EUPD.
Do you have a mental health hub near you, Just Google it along with your area name and see if something comes up

ADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria are what spring to
mind for me.

Book an appointment with your GP, tell them you're struggling with your mental health, and ask them what options there are in your local area to be referred for therapy. They might ask you some questions/do a questionnaire with you to see which service they feel is most suitable in terms of referral. If you mention ADHD to them, they could also look at referring you for ADHD assessment too (as the waiting lists tend to be quite long), as well as therapy.

In some areas, it's possible to self-refer for talking therapies, so you could try googling your area (e.g., "NHS therapy self referral" + area), to see if this is possible too.

Hope that helps!

Sounds very ADHD to me! Impulsive, indecisive, rejection sensitive, on top of the world with energy then plummet down thinking, ah shit, I've fucked up again sort of thing.

I do a lot of these things and have adhd. Definitely sounds like rsd in your symptoms

Yes, this is very much how it feels!

I'd like to add before my ADHD diagnosis, I was convinced I had BPD. I thought this for about 5 years or so. Obviously none of us can diagnose you. You could have one or the other, both, none, something else. But there can be overlap between diagnosis which is why it's so important to speak to a professional but also to trust yourself and maybe keep a record, a journal etc. I also kept track of my periods to understand what may be hormonal or exacerbated by hormones.

I don't know what area you are in but in my trust you can self refer for talking therapies (It's called Primary Care Psychological Therapy Service, in case you're in a similar area) If not, visit your GP x

I mean I can’t diagnose but with the childhood trauma this goes to classic EUPD.

You get diagnosed by a Psychiatrist, not a GP. Xx