To suggest I'm picked up earlier?

[Hello113]

I find these things hard to judge and am always worried about seeming rude. My boss is giving me a lift and has told me what time she will pick me up but she is often late to things and I also feel like we should add at least 15 minutes or half an hour onto the journey time so she would need to pick me up earlier. WIBU to suggest she picked me up earlier when she is already doing me a kind favour? And how do I phrase that over a text?

If you want to be in control of when you get there then don’t accept a lift.

She’s your boss so presumably she is the only one who’d be bothered if you were late and she’s doing you a favour, so no I wouldn’t ask for it to be any earlier.

As it’s your boss in your position I would go with the flow. I hate being late though so if I could I would also just make my own way there.

You can't. If you're worried then don't accept the lift.

If boss is going to be late anyway, does it matter if you're early? You'll just have to wait anyway.

No. She's the boss. She's doing you a favour by picking you up on her way. You can't tell her to leave earlier as that would change her schedule.

Sounds like you each have a different relationship with time. I think you either accept the time she wants or make other transport arrangements.

You either accept the lift and know you are going to be late or make your own way there and be in control of your time of arrival.

if someone is doing a favour you don’t set the limits.

I’d reply with
“Do you think that’s early enough? Waze is saying it’ll take x minutes from mine.”

Presuming your boss is a reasonable person who will take that in the way it’s meant?

God no. Your boss leaves when she wants to.

I think you either go with her at the time she says or you make your own way there. If it's your boss it doesn't matter if you're late because she is responsible for the lateness.
Unless you know that there's roadworks or some other issue on the part of the journey to or from yours that the boss might not know about then you could ask if you could leave a bit earlier and mention the roadworks.

If you do rime the timings, get yourself there.

I hate being late I’d say ‘thanks so much for the lift, I’m happy to be ready to leave a bit earlier if you think we need more time to get there’. That should hopefully prompt her to check timings. Some people are just bad at this.

Is it a meeting? What would the consequences of being late be?