Curtains open or closed in the dark

[ZaphodandMimi]

Changed my mind, sorry.

Why are you sexualising a woman feeding her baby? ‘Flashing’. She isn’t the odd one here.

As soon as it's dark our curtains are closed, I don't feel comfortable otherwise. Each to their own though.

Well you don't have to take that from what I said. I personally am not sexualizing it - but trust me, there are people who would.
Why on EARTH anyone would want to sit in a brightly lit room after dark with a big window with blinds up and open with people walking by and houses that overlook - is just beyond me.
And if it were my own daughter doing it, I would tell her not to. But she wouldn't/'doesn't.

I was all set to agree enthusiastically with you as people who don't shut their curtains when it's dark are weird and wrong and clearly unaware that THE DARK IS WATCHING (or even just your neighbours, which is more real but slightly less concerning to me 🤣).
But you made it weird by commenting on what she is doing. If you just asked curtains open or shut after dark you might have got honest answers, no chance now as its made it about the BF.

There was a litttle baby on the tube yesterday going absolutely mental, rooting about his Mum's chest ( he was in a sling) I didn't say anything obviously but I sort of wished she had felt like she could have just fed him, I think they need notices of public transport stating it's baby friendly.

Who sexualises a baby feeding ?

OP do you feel the same way about women breastfeeding in public?
There is no difference between what she is doing vs the millions of women who breastfeed in public every day.

Depend whether they are watching television without a licence!!!

What a creepy thread.

I don't understand how you can see if your blinds are akways closed.

Do you mean when you're out on the street?

and it's countryside out there anyway

Oh that must be lovely being able to see the countryside from the window.

ZaphodandMimi
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29/11/2024 23:24
My own preference is closed, and generally that is what I see around here. The road is quite narrow with double parking, and the houses can easily look into one another, and be seen into from the pavements as garden front are about 6 - 8 feet.
It is impossible to avoid seeing into someone's sitting room - even briefly, and my house certainly overlooks the ones across the road. So, I wish my neighbour almost directly opposite would close the blinds when BFeeding her new baby. More for her sake than mine (I don't care in general - but there are some weirdos around). Almost directly opposite the window, brightly lit, not seeming to care about who might see. It cant be very relaxing.
I know it's all open and nothing to bother about (although when I did it long ago, I even got odd looks at the Baby Clinic, when I tried to be blasé about it, so never publicly tried again), but it's almost flashing at this point (I mean that light-heartedly and with no judgement, just concern.)
Would you?

Just so that we know what your AIBU actually was, it seems you were having a pop at your neighbour for breast feeding in her own home.

Well I wouldn't boob shame breast feeding new mums anyway but I prefer curtains closed in the evenings myself. Perhaps stop looking in people's windows. You don't have to look if you don't like it.

I've explained several times. Big window, bright light, dark outside, narrow road, pavement close.
I do not look (but could see , if I did) - but as I leave my house, which is slightly higher, it's impossible to miss, even briefly. I DO NOT CARE or have an issue with BF in public or where it's possible to be seen (although would not do it myself, having tried years ago....) And I most definitely would not want my daughter to do it so visibly to passers by, in this neighbourhood; I would hope she was relaxed, comfortable and they were having an easy time of it. It is just counterintuitive I would have thought. But yes, I must be odd myself for thinking like that.....
As I said, one of the very few houses on a road of over 100 that want to have their interior brightly visible to people passing close by - even before the new arrival. I thought it was unusual before this.

Why the Hell did someone want to bring back to life a post I deleted anyway?

You didn’t delete a post. You edited your post and said you were leaving the thread…

The edit function isn't for wholesale deleting it's for amending grammatical errors and typos. Everyone can still read what you initially wrote.

So if you daughter was out in public, visible to passers by and her baby needed feeding what would you expect her to do? Go and find a darkened room to hide in? Or feed her baby as quickly and easily as possible?

OK -- TRIED to delete, had second thoughts, changed my mind....
And changed my mind about leaving as well.

The BF is a separate matter, which gives me concern.
Curtains/blinds wide open after dark, bright lights, big window, narrow road, houses overlooking and pavement 6-8 feet away. All of that was strange to me anyway.

Not the point I am making.

Let's face it though, not everyone is as accepting and nonchalant about breastfeeding; I would hope that she was able to be comfortable in whatever situation arose, and that she had some choice. Most babies can wait long enough to find a more private space. (For her and baby's sake.)

Just don't look into people's windows. They could be doing far worse than breastfeeding.

Bright lights in big windows catch the eye. I do not want to see into their house - they make it difficult not to - see that is, as opposed to purposely look.. As I said - before the breastfeeding, it was unusual. It is strange to make that choice now, would have thought.
My blinds are closed to prevent people seeing into my house... the pavement is far too close for my liking.
There is only one other house that leaves curtains open on this entire road (I just came up on my bike)..... don't most people want privacy??