To tell my work friend she messed up?

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I have just started a healthcare job after 3 years of training. My friend at work is in the same position.

She handed over to a colleague for the day shift. It has been found that she has got something wrong.

Not something catastrophic or that's harmed anyone, but has been pretty off in her interpretation of something.

I have overheard our colleague telling our boss about this. She will know doubt be spoken to about this, but she now has 2 weeks off so won't know until she's back in.

Should I give her a heads up? I feel bad that I know, and that I could've warned her. I don't want her to be blindsided, which she will be if I don't say anything.

But equally, is it my place? And I don't want to ruin her annual leave, as I know she will stress about this.

Just want to do right by by friend.

Tell her a day or so before she returns.

100% you should tell your friend if you believe it will help her, that’s what friends are for. But tbh if it’s not something she’ll get into major trouble for (where she might have to have some sort of good excuse/reason prepared) then personally I’d rather not be told as I’d have two weeks of anxiety waiting to be pulled

This is a good idea

If it was me I’d probably tell her but not now, I’d tell her a couple days before she is due back at work. That way it doesn’t spoil her time off but gives her a heads up so she is prepared for coming back.

Definitely don’t tell her now and leave her stressing whilst she’s supposed to be relaxing on holiday! Is it something that’s likely to be a big deal, is your boss likely to be nice about it? I see no reason to mention at all what might be a friendly ‘oops watch out next time’ type convo but if she’s actually likely to be in trouble and pushed to justify her version of events then tell her the day before so she can be prepared.

Did she definitely 'mess up' or is it on someone else's opinion?

Don't ruin her time off. You could give her a heads up the day before or something. But she'll spend two weeks stressing if you say anything now!

And honestly if it's something fairly minor I'd just leave it entirely,

Wait until she’s back at work, it would completely ruin my time off if someone gave me a ‘heads up’ on this, even if it was only a day or two before going back. It can’t be that serious if she wasn’t pulled up on it at the time.

You overheard it, so you could easily have got the wrong end of the stick. I would say nothing!

I would say nothing. If she raises it with you, I would pretend that I didn't know.

Even if it's not true, the fact that you know may well make her think that everyone knows and has been talking about it, and that would be awful for her.

It’s not. If it was me I wouldn’t be able to sleep the night before work. There is nothing she can do about it now, it’s cruel not to let her brain have time off from work.

I'm not sure I would tell her if you weren't meant to know in the first place.

Let her have her holiday and support her if she has consequences for her action, but make sure you are squeaky clean at work.

You overheard it, from that you've decided that she will be called in to be spoken to, you actually have no idea. You could stress her out for no reason at all.

Just leave it.

You only know what you overheard, so I would just leave it. Don't potentially ruin her annual leave for something that could be nothing.

if she had done something serious, she would be contacted regardless of being on annual leave. Is she likely to be suspended? Is it a sacking offence?

Stay out of it. What if she tells management that you told her. You’ll then be in trouble?

No, she hasn't done anything that would warrant being sacked or even suspended.

It's more of a skill issue.

I wouldn’t tell her. You overheard a conversation. that wasn’t for you. The boss may handle it differently, they might just refresh her training and see her mistake as their error.

You werent meant to hear so i would not pass it on. If it comes out you told her then you will look like a trouble maker.

I actually think it would be inappropriate to say anything. There’s nothing she can do whilst she is off so you would be stressing her out unnecessarily and if I were your line manager I would be pretty peeved at you getting involved.

If it’s a skill issue then it’s easily resolved. Your involvement isn’t required here. There’s a time to look out for friends and there is a time to be professional.

You would be wise to keep your counsel here. Overhearing a conversation, and repeating it, is never usually a good idea.

Reading your update - it's a non-issue. Keep out of it.

Also if you trained for 3 years I’m assuming you are a registered HCP so you would be wise to adhere to the professional codes of conduct