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Honestly AITA…

33 replies

Onegoingontwo · 29/11/2024 00:49

So, we have just been to watch a gig. Me, DH and some friends. The whole time DH is literally grabbing at my neck, shoulders, clothes… anywhere he can and I’m literally fighting to stay upright as the whole time I’m being used as a leaning post. I think DH was meant to be endearing, but after every request to stop and every desperate bid to run away he was following me and not getting the picture. So for three hours during the whole length of the gig I couldn’t enjoy myself but I didn’t let it ruin my night. Then the second to last song I went to the toilet and by the time I came out people were leaving so I lost my group. I ended up stuck, no one was moving. DH was phoning me but signal and service was bad so the conversations weren’t great. Eventually I got out and eventually I found DH and friends but by this point DH was fuming and was saying things like “I always do this” and “I’m a liar” when this is simply not true. I ended up crying because of the berating and the personal attack and our friends consoled me and not him. So now he hates me and told me he doesn’t like me and we walked back home in total and complete silence. I just don’t see what I’ve done but I’ve done something, and would be grateful if someone pointed it out.

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Pipconkermash · 29/11/2024 09:34

Why would you want a boyfriend like him? He’s really, really unpleasant.

Noredtape · 29/11/2024 09:36

It sounds like an absolutely crap night, was a lot of alcohol drunk?

cantarguewithfools · 29/11/2024 09:36

Your husband told you he doesn’t like you? Is he 12?

No more trips out for him with your friends. I would be mortified.

AlexaSetATimer · 29/11/2024 09:37

Pipconkermash · 29/11/2024 09:34

Why would you want a boyfriend like him? He’s really, really unpleasant.

Even wirse, he's a DH!

SwerveCity · 29/11/2024 09:40

he sounds like a total dick.

DowntonNabby · 29/11/2024 09:42

I have a friend whose partner is like yours. Makes a big show of being physically affectionate in public around people but then lets his facade slip and is an abusive arsehole who belittles her and puts her down at every opportunity. She's leaving her partner, I suggest you do the same. This won't be a one-off but the start of a pattern.

Cheesetoastiees · 29/11/2024 09:45

Dimpliy · 29/11/2024 01:34

He was leaning on you and touching you after you repeatedly asked you to stop.

He then punished you by blaming you getting caught up in a crowd.

He then sulked and gave you silent treatment.

It's all completely awful behaviour. Even one of these bad but all 3 combined tell me he is horrible.

All of this. If this is his usual behaviour, I’d rethink your marriage.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 29/11/2024 09:49

You need to tell him that you’re unhappy with him and need things to change or you’ll be leaving. Suggest couples counselling.

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