Conflicting sleep schedules

[summerwentaway]

Partner is a night owl. I am up at 5.30 for work 3 days a week. Go to bed about 9.30 to read for half hour then sleep. Partner stays up late gaming most nights. Gets irritated at me at weekends that I can't stay up past 11pm. It is a point of contenton.
Kitchen is directly downstairs from bedroom so last night he woke me up periodically from around 2-4 walking around and making snacks or tea playing you tube videos. He comes to bed at 5 (depriving me if my last half hour sleep!), tries to hug me and says i have put the heating on for you... Meanwhile I am tired and grumpy that he has woken me up half the night. AIBU or would you be feeling fed up too?

Some sort of boundaries needed. Could you move bedrooms so that you don’t hear noise from the rooms he wants to use downstairs?

But also, when do you see each other!?

Does he work? Who goes to bed at 5 am

He starts work at 9 WFH! I don't know how he does it, I think he has insomnia. There's 2 bedrooms next to each other, he spends most of the time in other side of house it's mainly making food etc that wakes me.

My partner and I have wildly conflicting sleep schedules. I'm fine with it, feel it works well. I'm up at 6 for work generally.. sometimes oversleep until 7 then in a bit more of a rush with my morning!

If he's ever too loud at night (getting overexcited playing multilayer with his friends), I ask him to pipe down. He apologises and then he does.

No judgement from him when I'm also going to bed early at the weekend - he knows i get tired and that I get thrown right off if I try to stay up. He'll come to bed with me at the weekends more often than not, and we'll catch a film instead of me reading/browsing Internet etc.

There would obviously be an issue if he was being loud all the time and refused to quiten down so I couldn't sleep, and if he got pissed at me for needing to sleep earlier at the weekends. But neither of those things are an issue. Because he's not a dick, I suppose.

He doesn't leave it until 5am though. More like 2.30 - 3am. He has to work at 9 after all. How does your partner cope with work? Is he work schedule afternoons/evenings?

Edit: just saw you answered with starts work at 9. How is it possible to function properly on max 4h sleep every night!

Could be be quieter when making his snacks ect?

He shouldn't be playing you tube videos late into the night at a volune that is waking you up but I also think he should be able to stay up and make food if he wishes.

I think he should be more mindful and try and be quieter and you should try headphones or a sleep headband. And definitely no waking you up by trying to hug you when he comes to bed.

I think I am bothered by us being on such different schedules but yes I can't stop him from staying up late and I think he just needs to be more aware of making noise at that time

Presumably you have asked him to keep the noise down
He doesn't give a shit.

Please Tell me you have no children with him

I have in the past yes and no children