in expecting my children to put their dirty laundry in the washing bin?

[misdee]

because i have just spotted more dirty socks and knickers from last night on the floor. again.

they are 8,5 and 3. actually the 3year old puts hers in the washing bin. other two are dirty little grub monsters lol.

You could be talking about my 9yr old.

She either leaves them on the floor or screws them up and stuffs them under her bed.

I refuse to put my hands under her bed, or even go in her bedroom for that matter lol

The rule in our house is pants and socks in wash bin. T-shirts and trousers in wash bin if really filthy, otherwise they might do a second day, school uniform is supposed to be laid on bed so i can see if it will do another day. They don't actually do it though

Believe me, sorry to say it does not get any better!!! DS is now eleven and after years and years of nagging, he does occasionally put dirty stuff in the basket (which is right outside his door)but still manages to leave his dirty boxers and socks on the floor!!!!! Are the two older ones boys? dd1 (5) is picking upo this whole putting things away a lot quicker!

no, all girls.

dd1 thinks i am her slave.

YABU - you want your children to put their dirty washing away - PMSL . Well ok, not unreasonable, but unrealistic - honestly, its easier just to give in ime.

My teenager used to find all sorts of places to hide her dirty knickers, i think she was embarrased - you would not believe where i used to find them.

hmmm well I have successfully trained mine to do this - unfortunately everything goes in as soon as they take it off, including pyjamas, jeans, uniform - much of which could be worn again.

I need to train them to be more discriminatory like Saltire

yes, that's the problem I have - when i ask them to put dirty clothes in the wash basket, ALL clothes, regardless of whether they need washing or not go in!!! Then i don't know whether to say something or to just be happy that they have acknowledged wash basket's existence!!

Our rule (dcs 9 and 7) is they get into pjs in living room, I sort into dd's clothes to go back onto her chair, ds's likewise and a pile for the washing basket. Ds's job is to then put the piles in their appropriate places, and washing is sorted into darks and lights (well ish anyway...). He has to to this every night otherwise pocket money is deducted. (DD's 'chore' is to bring plates etc into kitchen after tea and lunch). I know loads of people sya dcs shoud do chores anyway without the need for reward, but hey - it gets the jobs done so I don't care!

My dh hasn't mastered it yet. I'm always finding his clothes slumped around. So I don't wash them.

DS puts his clean washing in the dirty laundry basket in his room when I tell him to clear up, rather than put it away. That does annoy me!

YANBU - if you don't train them now, who'll do it for them when they've left home?

scaryteacher, our sons sound scarily similar...

DD has her own little laudry bin all to herself.
If stuff does not go in there it does not get washed, I put it in the BIN bin and say "you don't want that any more then?".
Great shrieks of protest: "well, if it is not in the laundry bin how do I know you want it washed?" I respond.
Pavlov's dog training really.
Now she checks I am loading her stuff in the machine and helps hang up "her" things to dry.
But I am very mean.
DH is worse, he is always getting shouted at by me for nut using the laundry bin, and DD shouts at him too, she likes the idea she is better than him at something!
Also the cats sleep on left out clothes and DD does not want "cat filth" on her clothes, so they get hung up.

Not unreasonable at all. Fanciful, hopeful, idealistic, but not unreasonable.

Having a laundry bin to themselves is a great idea.

Yep, dh is the worst in my house. All 3 children don't do anything but then one is onyl 21 mths!. The other 2, dd who is 4.5 yrs and ds who is 11 yrs, are both lazy so and so's and too think that I am thier slave. However, if their 30 yr old dad can't do it then why sohuld they be able to??!!

Lol.

In an ideal world I would love to think that my dh and the 2 older chldren could find at least 1 of the 2 washbins to put their clothes in, but alas, I just can't see their bedroom floors for the sea of clothes.

Happy- have you discussed how you feel with him?