To think women don't pay for sex....

[Jigglemonster]

My guy friends have mostly paid for sex (or at least their friends have). Those same guys have insisted that women do the same but I have never encountered it. AIBU in thinking women are generally less needy in this regard?

Why do you know so many people who pay for sex/have paid for sex?

I don't know a single person who does.

And no WOMAN should be paying for it. Men should be grateful we give it to them!

Research from the University of Birmingham suggests that 1 in 8 adult males regularly pay for sex. Occasional users would be higher than this. I suspect that for women it is significantly less, but there will still be women that pay for male services and off course the gay escort market (men and women) also exists. Those posters saying that they do not know anyone who pays for sex. I am afraid they will be within your social circle and family. You just will not know about it.

@kodaira · Today 16:52

I suspect some of the respondents are being holier than thou.

Or maybe, ya know, some posters genuinely don't know anyone who pays for sex - (that they know of.) Doesn't make them 'holier than thou' FFS.

Is it really so hard to believe that some people are different to you/know different people etc?

Maybe open your mind a little, and stop projecting.

Women absolutely pay for sex. I know someone who's done it.

It’s far easy for women to get a shag than men so I would think the amount of women who pay for sex it minuscule they don’t have to

Most of your male friends have paid for sex? I wouldn't say that was the norm. But you're probably right in saying single women would make up less than 1% of the 'sex worker use' market.
I have one male friend who uses male escorts. I don't know any hetero men who've (admitted to) using a female prostitute. I wouldn't really want to be friends with blokes that do that tbh.

Holier than thou?? On mumset?! I wont hear of it!!

Your guy friends are complete sleazes. And so are you if you're looking for affirmation that it's ok so you can go and do it.

There was a film about this a couple of years ago, with Emma Thompson. It all looked quite civilised and of course he was charming, handsome and so on. In real life I could never.

If the Relationships board of this site can teach you anything, it's that plenty of women literally pay to have a man around. Plenty. So many that we literally coined a term for said men.

I don't think it's that common but it definitely does occur. I'm not sure paying is that prevalent in men either, I don't know any that admit to it

I think I would be most put off by the fact the sex worker is there for money and not because he’s attracted to me. I don’t know how men can look past this, presumably they just don’t care. The thought of someone performing sex acts on me when they’re presumably secretly disgusted and willing it to be over does absolutely nothing for me.

Does it not bother you that they're only having sex with you for the money, and they don't find you attractive...and may in fact be repulsed by you?

It's easy for women to get a shag but not easy to get a good shag. I think what women who do pay pay for is quality.

What would good quality paid for sex look like for a woman though? Amazing body / appearance? Maybe, but I think most of us aren’t that bothered. Mutual physical, emotional attraction and connection i.e. sparks? Unlikely to be experienced with a professional who is there for one reason. Technical skills? Maybe but that on its own from someone I have no connection to would leave me cold. I think most women are different to men in this way and that’s why sex work for women has never taken off in the same way.

Not in a million years would I pay for sex. I can get 'good quality' sex without wasting my hard earned money on it!

Some women do actually, though it’s not as common. I absolutely have had friends offered sexual services as part of a spa treatment, for example. Would not touch it with a barge pole, but to each their own.

How would you know they would be a "good shag"? Just because they get paid for shagging, doesn't necessarily mean they're any good at it. In fact, they'd probably just "go through the motions ". ..especially if they didn't find you attractive.

@Jigglemonster clearly you haven’t been to countries like Jamaica or Gambia. There are lots of English women on the look out for young men (in third world countries) and will pay them accordingly for their services.

I met a man once who worked as a male escort in his slightly younger years and can assure you that women absolutely do pay for sex.

For clarity, I was not one of them, and this was several years after he stopped escorting.

Indeed. I'm quite new around these parts, but isn't the term lockcodger or something similar but less discreet?

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