Am I sad for sitting in a pub by myself?

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I’ve had an awful evening so I decided to walk to my local pub and sit here. I’ve got a vodka and coke and feel people are looking at me! I can’t go home feel so upset. DH is home with the 2 kids. I’ve never done this before. Never jus left the kids and definitely never sat in a pub all b myself. Shall I leave? People must think I’m strange.

Men do it all the time, I don’t see why you shouldn’t. Take a book or a newspaper.

Hope you are ok OP.

Sounds like a small village pub problem, not you.

I wouldn’t do it, but I don’t suppose anyone has even noticed you. Whatever gets you through.

No of course not, sounds like you needed the break. Don't worry about other people. I always tell myself in situations like this "well I'll never see this person again". Have a breather, take some time enjoy the alone time whilst you can without the kids!

I don’t think it’s likely to be any fun in your circumstances, where you’re festering and hoping your DH checks on you, but I’ve got no issue with sitting peacefully solo in a pub, having a drink, and do it periodically. Some of my nicest times in a previous life involved stopping off for a drink and to do the crossword on my way home from work.everyone else was a good thirty years older than me, and lovely.

Don't overthink this. He might not be calling because like you said, this isn't your normal reaction. It might of made him realise he needs to deal with the kids whilst you gather your thoughts.

Walking out without explanation to children isn't ideal. Going for a drink in reaction to stress also not ideal.

You need healthy escape plan which provides your children reassurances. Not trying to guilt you but for your own sake you need them.

Agree with this, and wish we had a cafe culture like they do in France etc. There it is considered 100% normal to sit alone at any time, day or evening ( as it should be). I’m sorry you’re having a rough evening OP 😥

Sorry to hear about the argument. I would also be really pissed off if DH never contacted me after I walked out and especially if it's unusual for me to to do that. Admire you for sitting in a pub alone. I wouldn't have the balls.

Have your drink, scroll away on your phone and leave DH to it for as long as possible. Be safe walking home in the dark

I wish I had the confidence to do it. I’m ok with a coffee place or eating, used to love going to the cinema in the middle of the day alone, just feels so freeing doing something alone instead of with dh or dd 😂
Nobody will likely be bothered about what youre doing there, try to enjoy

Eh? Of course it's not strange. People go to pubs on their own all the time. I've worked in lots of pubs and it's really normal for people to pop in and have a drink on their own. Take something to read or a crossword to do or have a game to play on your phone or something if you feel weird just sitting there - but even just sitting there watching the world go buy is normal.

Nothing wrong with it. I do it quite often. I’ve been asked before if I’m alone and respond saying “yes”… you do tend tot get people trying to chat to you if they see you alone, probably lonely people out to chat to others. I like the peace and sometimes just to catch up with friends over the phone.

Drinking alone after an argument isn’t great though and drinking because you don’t want to go home must be an awful feeling. Hope you have managed to relax.