Felt sad watching Home alone with my Dd

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Watched Home alone with DD, 6, for the first time last night.
It took me back to watching it with my family, parents, brother & sister. We’d watch it at Christmas and we’d see my grandparents or nana and all my cousins etc, such a busy, bustling time.
It’s just Dh, dd, ddog and me, we also live abroad so just us at Christmas some years. I just think back to my 80/90’s childhood and having brothers & sisters and feel sad for her. I was quiet and shy, whereas she’s very outgoing and loves people around. She has her neighbour friends over a lot, but it’s not the same.

Nostalgia does cause us to look through things with rose tinted glasses. I thought similarly during covid when it was just three of us. It was easy to forget the Christmases where my dad ignored us all or my aunt / uncle were fighting and had to be pulled apart by older male relatives

I totally get what you're saying, and I can understand why watching it with her has brought back so many memories. Films and songs can really do that to us! But just because her experience isn't the same as yours doesn't mean she won't look back on this as fondly! She's happy and outgoing and has friends round. When she's cosy with her own DD watching Home Alone some Christmas in the future, she'll come over all fuzzy remembering how she watched it with her Mum and how much she loved it ❤

I get it. I live abroad too. My Mum went out of her way to make Christmas brilliant for us. Home Alone was a top Christmas film for us too.

She still hosts it even though we all live in multiple countries and travel to get there, but I’m starting to wonder how many more she’ll be able to do and what will happen when she can’t. Christmas has always been one of my favorite times of year but lately I’ve realised just how much of an anchor of the family she is.

Home Alone is literally a film about families that fight / don't appreciate each other. You can't guarantee that siblings will get on.

My family live abroad too. You are lucky to at least have a DD and your own little family OP. DH and I TTC 12yrs, lost 3 and now will never have our own children to watch any films with.
Sometimes you need to be grateful for what you DO have x

@JC03745 So sorry, 10 years ttc, 3 losses, emergency ectopic and 3 rounds of ivf. I’m
very grateful but still sad

@MyLoftySwan That’s true, I remember lots of times when I probably would have wished for a smaller family, but just so many people around to interact with etc

@kilkiman Did you say something rude/offensive?

Sorry op i hate that film.

And she will grow up and have a huge extended family and feel guilty that her kids are watching it, constantly squabbling and interrupted while she had such a cosy, calm time, one to one, with just her mum...

In that movie they have so many kids there that they literally forget all about one of them and leave the country.

It took me back to watching it with my family, parents, brother & sister. We’d watch it at Christmas and we’d see my grandparents or nana and all my cousins etc, such a busy, bustling time.

If it's any consolation - when I was a kid I didn't really enjoy a 'busy, bustling time' with loads of relatives at all. Especially if I just wanted to watch a film in peace!

Honestly, I'm sure your DD is fine - don't give it a second thought. She's got a happy home and the full attention of her mum and dad. She'll have a fab Christmas.