How interested were your in laws in your pregnancy?

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Mine haven’t asked how I am, sent congratulations, haven’t shown one iota of interest.

They have never really liked me to be honest, I’ve always been the outsider. I did think they might be a little interested in the upcoming birth of another family member however!

AIBU to expect interest? Or is interest in the pregnancy completely uncorrelated to interest in the baby when they’ve arrived?

Mil and Fil are split and both in new relationships. Mil absolutely lovely and very involved, always messages to see how I am..recently took us on holiday as our last one before baby comes,.we invited her to our 4D scan and she was there etc she is amazing I am so lucky!

Fil don't like me and never really has so he's not happy about the pregnancy as he feels it 'ties the knot' with me and DP a little more. Don't particularly like him either so oh well we don't see him anyway.

My own parents - not one bit interested!

DP's mum was mildly excited when we went round and told her. Don't think FIL lifted his head from his newspaper 😂 ours was the 6th grandchild though so think the shine had worn off by then. I never got asked how I was etc but that's just how they are. They like DD now she's here 🙂

Very similar story here.
Neither side is interested.

Mil actually was really off with me during my first pregnancy, gave me silent treatment. All because we chose to get married at a registry office and couldn't afford to have a celebration/more than 2 witnesses so rather than exclude people/create drama (my parents are divorced and at the time my dad wouldnt do anything without his girlfriend) my inlaws are also very obvious about not wanting to meet or interact with my family so we didnt have a lot of options really. Its been 12 years, and they haven't met my family apart from my mum who lives with us so i can provide care for her.

we decided to keep it simple and just do it us. It was also 3 days before I gave birth we just wanted it done. I was 22. I was very vunerable with her and told her I was terrified. She knew I had no family interested yet she still chose to ignore me because we didn't dance around her wishes.

Mil does however love newborns so has always rushed over the day they are born. Then loses interested. So no inlaws were never really interested in pregnancy or really me. Like a pp said they get offended if I don't attend Christmas but when I am there no one talks to me 🤷🏼‍♀️ I am the only daughter in law and its very clear to me now they just aren't warm social people they like to keep themselves to themselves and see any outsiders as threats.

I have three boys I plan to be a lovely warm inviting mil who knows boundaries and won't overstep! But won't sulk when my children and their potential partners just want to live their lives !

Interested but they don't communicate unless we reach out to them. They are very polite when we do though and loved seeing scan pictures.

Your update about your husband is concerning.
I think you need to make a plan about how you see your family life and future and discuss it with your husband.
Tell him how you feel ignored and excluded by his family.
Personally, I would pull back and avoid spending time with them unless they make an effort to acknowledge and respect you. They don't need to ask about the pregnancy but they do need to show decency and some warmth.