My partner and I are in our late forties and have been together 5 years. Good relationship. Both have grown up kids from previous marriages.
When we first met, my partner told me that he'd 'lost the love of his life' when she walked out on him after his divorce took so long. This was 10 years ago. He was devastated to the point of having a near breakdown and being in therapy for over a year. He said that he'd repeatedly asked Jane to marry him, but she had left him before his divorce was finalised.
He's the singer in a professional group (rock/soul). He played a smallish venue this weekend and a group of his friends came. They normally join me and my friends but on Friday they sat up in the Gods in a box, where they could see him clearly but I couldn't see them. One or two came to say hello to me during the gig, but it was a bit odd.
The following morning, I have no idea how I knew, but I just knew. I said to him 'was Jane up there with your friends last night?" He went bright red and asked how I knew. Apparently he'd gone over and had a drink with them and chatted. I asked him if I hadn't said anything, would he have? He said no, that it wasn't important.
I am completely blindsided. She hasn't seen him for 10 years and here she is, back in touch with his friends, coming to see him play. What does she want and more importantly, what is he going to do if she wants him back? Love of his life yada, yada, yada. The one that got away. I asked him and he said 'its all water under the bridge and there's nothing to discuss.'
I'm happy, have a good job, friends etc but I feel so vulnerable. If he said he wanted her back, I've rented my house out and would have to start all over again. He would just be picking up where he left off. I'm not the jealous type - am fine with the much younger ex-wife, glammy singer ex-girlfriend (between me and Jane) and even the odd groupie doesn't bother me. Am I over reacting?
If you've read this far, thank you!