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A 40 year old nanny?
My friend is currently looking but only wants a female aged 25/38 which is her right I guess but personally I would hire anyone under 65 if I felt they were a good match for my family.

Why is 38 fine but 40 isn’t.

Does she understand how birthdays work? If she hires a 38 year old will they be sacked on their 39th birthday? Because that’s mean.

I know. It doesn't make sense.

I would expect a 40 year to be more than capable. Does your friend think that someone younger will be cheaper by any chance. And perhaps easier to boss about.....?

I'm a 61 year old nanny. I've been with my current family for 10 years and nannying for 30+. I'm better at my job than I was when I started.

My nanny was 42 when she started and was with me 10 years until DD was 11.

She was ace.

I would have loved a 40 yo nanny when DD was little. I would have imagined she would be far better than young women in their early 20s (so I'm just as prejudiced but in the other direction )

So she wants someone who is at the age that is most likely to get pregnant/ have their own small children?

Doesn't seem like a very good idea to me.

Does she have any reasons she's told you about?

I think I'd be a bit intimidated by someone older than me tbh! Not a great reason, but the process of hiring a nanny is based on gut most of the time anyway.

I think some people are worried about asking people to do things, who are their age or older. Suspect this is about her confidence in managing people.

A 40 year 0ld may be more likely to have their own strong views on how to care for a child much more than someone in their twenties. Plus a 40 year old could be more expensive. I would guess the 38 year old cut off point is just random and she wants someone young and malleable.

I don't believe you are able to discriminate based on age. So if someone is doing this they need to change what they are doing.

I'd rather hire someone that had their own adult/teenage children and was likely to not be having anymore tbh as horrid as that sounds so 45+ for me!

Is your friend 38 by any chance?

Admittedly my nanny is only pt (after school and holidays) but she’s over 60.

Age wasn’t really something I thought about tbh. She is kind, caring, able to look after the boys and is utterly wonderful.

I'd rather hire a 40 year old than a 25 year old. More life experience, more sensible (presumably) and less likely to get pregnant themselves and leave.