Tongue piercing

[Claire903]

I've been on a few dates with someone.
It was going well. I had honestly given up on meeting someone, so was pleasantly surprised and enjoying spending time with him.

Then on Friday we went out and both probably had too much too drink. He said some hurtful things that I remember about my tongue piercing. He delivered it in a jokey way but said that I only have a tongue piercing for giving fellatio and I must be really good at it.

He then went on to ask if I wear it in work. When I said yes, he said I shouldn't wear it in a professional environment. Now I'm worried that he's right and people will judge me and think the same as him.

I haven't talked to him about what he said. Should I just completely cut him off? or do I give him another chance and put it down to the alcohol? And is he right?!

He sounds awful OP. Well done for ditching him.

I was nervous about doing it but it felt great saying it @SauvignonBlonk

Great news!

You were absolutely right to dump him, but can i ask what's the point of a tongue piercing if not for sexual enhancement? It's not decorative as not visible so I always thought must be for sex.

@BMW6 style, fashion, sensory feeling

Def ditch the guy. Regarding what people at work think, I would say, they probably don't give it a second thought. I had a tongue piercing when I was younger, I don't now, if I saw someone with a tongue piercing I would say oh cool, a piercing. He sounds like a judgmental prick, don't think you have to worry about anybody at work caring about it one way or the other.

I think he is being a nob
Personally they give me the complete ick and I couldn’t date someone who had one but I if chose to I wouldn’t then make an issue of it

@AnotherChildFreeCatLady thanks. It definitely hasn't held me back at work. Without being super successful I've done alright professionally.

He's trying to meet up with me at the weekend but it's a definite "no"

@Otterhound i think that's fair enough

Well done