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Feeling overwhelmed

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Undatisfied123 · 24/11/2024 22:17

What can I do to feel less overwhelmed?

I'm a single Mum to 2 DD13 and 11. 13 is ASD but copes remarkably well outside the house and is thoughtful and kind. At home she can be difficult. I work full time as a Primary School Teacher.

I have supportive parents and great friends. I also have a partner but a very odd situation where our lives are very disconnected.

Life is hard. I'm on my own nearly every evening, and I'm exhausted once girls are in bed, so go to bed very early. I do an exercise class at 6 am 3x a week, which I love and is good for me, but mornings are then a rush.

13 year old can be very difficult in the mornings, and I feel like I've had a full day of stress before I even get to work.

We have always spent NYE with a group of friends, but for various reasons not happening this year. I feel really sad. I know I can snuggle up and have fun at home with the girls, but it will feel fake, and I will be on edge that they argue and make it horrible.

What can I do to improve my outlook? What I want is a good relationship where I am supported and valued. I just find life really hard. Friends, family and colleagues all comment how strong I am but my own daughter told my Mum I always cry when she is upset (Unfortunately this is true) so I can't help her with anything! I cover a lot up outside the house!

Need some tips to get me through the festive period in a happy place! Or do I just hibernate for the next 6 weeks and pretend it isn't happening? Thanks for your advice.

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Quitelikeit · 24/11/2024 22:21

I’m sorry you are feeling so low could it be hormonal? Peri maybe?

May I ask why you cry when your child gets upset? I do think that’s something that is not usual?

Windywuss · 24/11/2024 22:26

I think what you're feeling is normal.. Single mum to ds who is autistic here too. Also work almost full time hours in a full on job..I also have a chronic health condition and no family support and no partner.

It's just bluddy tough. I think honestly just try and relax about NY. I understand the disappointment if you're used to seeing friends but it's ok to hunker down at home and chill. If the kids argue they argue.

It's just me and ds for Xmas again here. I feel bad for him that he doesn't ever get the big family Xmas but that's just how it is.

Undatisfied123 · 24/11/2024 22:30

I think I cry at I'm at capacity just at normal times so if they are being difficult for whatever reason I am pushed over the edge! I know it's not good but takes so much energy to get through the day.

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