To wonder if your NCT group are still friends?

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Ours was pretty tight but now the year before school I can feel is drifting. It’s sad but a bit inevitable I suppose! Has anyone managed to maintain friendships?

No. We lasted a couple of years and then drifted apart.

12 yrs on - one of them is now one of my closest friends. A couple of others are still acquaintances.

Eldest DC Year 4 now. Still in contact, annual meet ups altogether but individuals more frequently. WhatsApp still going strong.

Yes. First group all but one are still in touch and mums meet regularly. Children have all just turned 7. Second group (different area), children all in reception and all apart from one family meet regularly (tonight in fact!).

I did antenatal classes with a group of ladies, run by a lovely lady, who was able to offer them after the local NHS ones were unable to run. We were all pregnant with our first. Now, 25 years on, these ladies are amongst my closest and oldest friends. There have been five more children between us. We still meet regularly, and will be doing so in just a few weeks for Christmas.
This summer was exceptionally special as we welcomed the first grandchild to our group, with an afternoon of very special new born cuddles.

I just have nothing in common with mine, except getting pregnant the same month in the same part of London. I don't dislike them, I wish them all happiness, success and joy, but honestly I have very little inclination make the effort to meet up, as I have bugger-all free time, and other friends and family whose company I just enjoy more.

Yes. Mostly for the last 27 years. Catch up with them all separately or in a small group at
least once a month. Two have left the group because they moved out of the area or country. It’s been amazing cos the kids all catch up too and are friends.

That’s fair enough - I did a baby class after I had my second where we were added to a WhatsApp group and the group leader encouraged friendship but while we managed a couple of coffees I just didn’t have much in common with them or they with me. So it fizzled quickly.

But I do think having children the same age can be a big thing to have in common especially when you’re navigating motherhood for the first time.

DD2's group - mainly yes and she / the kids were 18 this year. We managed to socialise at least a couple of times a year until secondary school, then the kids had their own group of friends. DD1 still Snapchats a couple of the girls.

I am still FB friends with 5 out of 6 of the sets of parents. The other parent has blocked us all in the last 18 months due to her children coming out as trans - none of the rest of us said anything negative about this but I guess we don't fit her (the mum's) new campaigning lifestyle.

I was in a group of 8 but 3 of us are still super close (meet up every week without the kids, have holidayed together etc)
The 3 of us now have 11 kids between us. There's a 4th NCT friend who we love and value but see maybe once every 2 months - her life is just very different ans busier than mine. Best £120 I ever spent -over 13 years ago.

I have 2 really close friends and then 2/3 loose friends. Others I'd say hi too but I wouldn't seek them out for a coffee now.

Not now but a couple were really close friends for several years.

Vast majority of couples have split now due to the guys being faithless shits.

YABU

Not really. Most of ours moved away within a year or so (we are in London so not surprising I guess). We are still in touch with the two families that stayed longer.

Yes 29 years on we are still friends 😀

Yes, it’ll be 15 years next month. We meet up every few months, children all get on, it’s lovely.

Yes, 13 years and counting. 2 families drifted away for different reasons but the remaining 4 of us are still really good friends, Dads too.

No. All went wrong when people started having their second and people feeling left out. People then moved. Not even Facebook friends anymore

The babies are 22 now and 5 of us are really close. 2 I regard as my closest friends

What does NCT stand for? Can’t find answer in my google search 😵‍💫

Yeah 16 years on 4 of us still meet up for a meal and a catch up now and again. The kids don't see each other anymore as they all go to different schools and have their own friends and interests and now they're too old for soft play we wouldn't know what to do with them.

No, only lasted about a year or two and Covid lockdowns didn’t help. Didn’t have much in common and there was a falling out between some of the couples.

Most fell by the way side within 2 years. Still really good friends with one family 11 years on despite us living in different cities. Some of my favourite people :-)

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Our first group meeting, the children are in year 2 and I'm still good friends with 2 of the women. My husband is very good friends with one if the dads.
My second group we see each other all the time. 2 of them are among my closest friends now. Kids start school in September