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[Lollyp2]

My partner has an element of ADHD.
He always has to be doing something.
His attention span is also very short.

I told him that people can call him "quick quick" which means that someone likes doing stuff very quickly and moving on to something else which can be a good attribute.

He in turn told me that people would call me "anal" then later said it was a joke.

I found that quite hurtful!
AIBU?

Sounds pretty much a non event, tbh.

It sounds like you criticised him and called him a name, then couldn’t take him doing the same

Obviously it’s not kind to describe anyone as anal but it’s an odd conversation.

Also, ‘an element of ADHD’?

Is ‘element of adhd’ the new ‘high functioning autistic’ or ‘a little OCD’? Very rude and dismissive regardless.

Well you called him names first so I don't think you have any moral high ground really.

Oh come on, he called you Anal basically means a bit uptight, which judging by the fact you've made a thread upset he called you Anal, I'd say is likely bang on the money 😂

I didn't call him adhd.

I told him people would call him "quick" coz he likes doing things quickly.

To me that's not an awful thing but a compliment.

In return I got anal.

Maybe that's how he feels about me in all truth.So the question is should I be concerned about being called anal?

Does he have ADHD?

You said on this thread he had "an element of ADHD" which sounds like you are labelling him without an official diagnosis. Wether you said this to his face or not is not really the point. Also you have decided to be offended by "anal" he may decide to be offended by "quick"