I’ve had major surgery in the last week with some complications and have just come home today now the complications have been rectified.
I have multiple siblings (adults and children in total there’s 28 of us) and while not a close close close group, we always go out for everyone’s birthdays, see each other in smaller groups at least fortnightly. One group of 6 live much further away but they meet up with smaller groups out of us all at least monthly.
I bring birthday gifts for every single person, message, FaceTime or send a video message (in the morning/evening before) when the kids have big events eg starting school, exams, martial art gradings etc
I am on my own with one child. He’s away at uni about 60 miles away but has been in contact daily and came back for a matter of hours to surprise me with a visit while I was still on the ward.
My siblings have never been great at remembering our birthdays or big events, but life gets busy and you can’t judge people by your own standards. But this feels different.
I am tired, I have had a week of it, I have been in lots of pain. The operation was planned but it was done much sooner than expected due to it turning into a bit of an emergency not helped by long NHS waiting lists.
…so they all knew it was coming and all know it’s happened.
One sibling of mine messaged saying they “hoped my little operation was ok” (it was a major operation, but maybe this was an attempt at humour) but haven’t even opened my reply message thanking them.
my parents have both been really good- came to see me and brought treats, fed my rabbits daily while I was kept in unexpectedly.
…but I have heard NOTHING from the rest of them.
Not to be dramatic, but I did nearly die and the operation was big. Plus the surgical complication, extended time in hospital and upset about it being a big emergency.
One of them (sister) had an operation earlier this year and I sent a hamper of treats and a card when I couldn’t visit due to a work trip. I visited when I got back.
Am I being sensitive or is this really crap of the rest of them??
I wasn’t expecting flowers or any visitors, but a message or a phone call to see if I was ok would really have kept me going over the last few days. It’s made me really sad.
Am I unreasonable for hoping they would have checked on me in the week since my surgery?