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Baby keeps banging her head on the cot. Is it dangerous?

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user11290 · 24/11/2024 11:09

Hi,

My 11M old keeps banging her head on the cot. She does this before she falls asleep. It's like she self soothes but is this dangerous? Could it impact her negatively?

Thanks

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Catza · 24/11/2024 11:20

What sort of banging are we talking about? Gentle repetitive bumping against a soft surface, I wouldn't worry about and would think of ways to give her more proprioceptive sensory input throughout the day. Standing up and launching her head into wooden cot railings, I would be more concerned about due to risk of breaking the skin or causing a concussion.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 24/11/2024 12:23

I had a head banger! It’s very distressing to watch. Mine did it in temper, she had epic tantrums and would beat her head on the hard floor (deliberately moving off carpet) until she was black with bruises. It was awful. The GP said his official diagnosis was “strong personality!” 😂

It can be a few different things. If it’s gentle it may just be a self soothing thing, if it’s more violent like my girl it’s more frustration. My DD is now eleven and we’re on our third attempt at getting her assessed for ASD and ADHD. She is, however, absolutely fine, and does not appear to have given herself lasting brain damage. She still has one hell of a temper though.

If you’re worried talk to your GP. It’s actually quite common, and having some reassurance from a professional can be helpful. We built a padded playpen for ours so that she could head bang without hurting herself.

Even if you’re not worried, it is worth talking to your GP anyway to get your concerns recorded. People ask questions about babies with unexplained bruises. I have twice had a medical professional ask me to undress my daughter to check for other bruises. First one explained why, second didn’t. Don’t take it personally, they’re just doing their job. Sadly there are children who desperately need someone making these checks. These checks weren’t done as a matter of course 40 plus years ago, and I have friends who suffered far longer than they would have as a result. Just cooperate. No one has ever accused me of harming my child. But just be aware that they have to always consider the possibility. It’s not about you.

spanglypen · 24/11/2024 12:25

Yes tbh head banging is common in autistic children so I would keep an eye out.

QueenOfWeeds · 24/11/2024 15:28

DD was a head banger around then, and still is if she gets very cross in her cot (20 months now). I asked the health visitor about it in relation to ASD and she said that it could be an indicator, but could just be that she knows hitting her head gets a reaction from us, and it was too early to say either way.

It does mean we’re at an impasse with bedtimes because if we put her in the cot and she doesn’t want to sleep, she head-buts it. But it has definitely calmed down a bit as she has got older.

InTheRainOnATrain · 24/11/2024 15:32

If you’re worried just put her in a travel cot

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