To be jealous of succesful people?

[malificent7]

Ok I know I am being unreasonable but bear with me.
I am jealous of people who have a talent such as music, art, writing or sport and not only do it for living and make lots of money from it but also love it.
I am an nhs worker and yes, I know we are important yadda, yadda, yadda but it dosn't pay well. I also wouldn't say it is my absolute passion...art is...but it's too risky financially.
Even watching Strictly I am amazed by these beautiful, talented people with amazing bodies and who love what they do. Yes there has been politics and abuse...but that is rife in normal jobs too.
How do I get over my feelings of inadequacy?

If it's any consolation, I'm a writer and I make very little money. I envy people with stable jobs in the NHS with a pension and regular income.

It's never too late to change your life. When you look at them, what interests you the most? Is it dance, singing, or playing an instrument? I'm not saying you'll make a living from it, but you won't know unless you give it a go!

You can start by realising that what you call “talent” is mostly decades of dedication to the graft. I work for the NHS and about to drop a day to focus on my art business. I was not one of those people who “loved drawing ever since they were 2 years old”. My mum always said “Oh, she loves to draw but she has no talent for it”. Well, guess what. After 30 years of believing I had no talent, I picked up a pencil and over the 10 years mastered the craft. I now have a business designing fabric and making homeward goods. And it’s been steadily growing over the last few years. Turned out talent wasn’t such big of a deal. My lack of skills and confidence were.

Success isn't everything in life, sorry but I think this is very shallow.
I'm not academic at all despite my parents getting me into a private school but I was very good at art, the best in the year at one time but it's very hard to be 'successful' in this field. I'd have loved to have been better at math and science etc.
My work is not particularly lucrative but I love my work so the money comes 2nd imo.
So yeah, art isn't everything op, but if you love it you could take an evening art class?

Yes join a local choir! I run a choir and it is so good for well being, breathing, sense of community etc Most local choirs won't have auditions and will be super happy to see you!

YABU
These people with talent, some may have been born with a flare, but the most spend every waking moment honing and practicing. Successful people put in a hell of a lot more effort than your average Joe, constantly doing something associated, or learning new elements, but more importantly they practice.

If you want to hone your hobby, then find some time for it, you might think you're crap now, but in 3 weeks you'll be better and in 6 you'll be unrecognisable. To get over your feelings of inadequacy, do something about it, hone a skill, practice it, learn about it, join a club, watch YouTube videos, take a class, loads of ways to learn but the main thing is do it consistently.

Some good advice on here...i think i fo need to practice every day.

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No point to jealousy. It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

And you can make your own light shine brightly. Pursue the things you love. Even if for 20 minutes a day.

Some people say 'oh I love drawing but I'm rubbish at it' when in reality anyone who is good is good because they practice, just like music, dancing, singing etc (obviously people have some innate strengths and things they're innately less good at), but they don't just wake up brilliant footballers / dancers / artists and so go on to have a successful career in that sphere.

If your passion is art, do it. Do it in your spare time as your hobby, and see where it takes you. That's at least one of the easier things to do in your spare time as it's less dependent on anyone else. Maybe you'll start making money out of it on the side (and then maybe full time) or maybe it will just remain a passionate hobby that gives you pleasure in your spare time.

I am in no way talented in any of those things - some people may consider me successful because I've worked hard and gained a good salary, but my colleagues and I often discuss how we wished we'd followed our passions. Some who wished they were working in those industries, but also a surprising amount who wished they'd gone into nursing/medicine for the NHS and made a better difference in the world.

I write books as a side hustle and am traditionally published. I make very little money. Very few writers or artists or musicians make money. It took me 20 years to get published, and a lot of hard work.

So paint in your spare time. Join the local art society.

Plenty of people start that way, and derive joy from it.

I know many artist, writers, actors who just don't make it. The people you are taking about are unicorns. I'd say it's actually a curse to be really good at those things because unless you're really lucky you're just going to be incredibly talented and broke. A friend of mine's sister is an amazing actress and director. She does get paid for her work but it's terrible. Her main just is as a waitress.

Another friend is a very talented artist. He had a very regular 9-5 in admin and is constantly frustrated that he can't break out.

Another friend is an author. She has one book struggling on Amazon (it very well reviewed) and another friend can only get her submissions into a very niche magazine which she has to continually plug.

Imagine having such talent and still having to live a regular life still.

I don't have any talent creatively but I absolutely agree with your comments.
However I am also in the public sector and am only a few years away from being able to retire, and I know some people are envious of me (if only they knew how much I pay into my pension monthly!).
All I will say is we each have something for others to be envious of but try and take joy from your successes

Absolutely true. Talent often has nothing to do with it. Its hard work, persistence and a very thick skin.
I wake up at 5 am and work weekends on my books, and 5 days a week in my day job.

I'm a published writer. I know lots of other writers and artists. I also work in publishing. It may be talent, but it's also dedication and energy. Literal blood, sweat, and tears in many cases. My DH is a professional violinist - it's not even his main career, but he spends hours practicing. He can't go a day without touching the violin or he starts to feel depressed.

These people don't just wake up one day and go "Oooh! I'm going to be an artist!" - they spend years throwing themselves into their craft. They get rejected, despair and grieve, then pick themselves back up and do it all over again. It's a drive in a lot of people like this; something that doesn't let them stop.

If you want to do something in art, then start doing it! Don't be jealous of other people.

I ride at a decent level and compete in eventing with a reasonable amount of success for an amateur. It's taken me a long time to get to where I am and it's not even my job.

I have friends who are professional riders and producers and they would be the first to say that every inch of talent they have wouldn't mean a thing without a mile of hard work and a considerable amount of luck / good circumstance on top of that.

Success in any field is an incredibly long, hard road and it doesn't happen overnight.

Coming back to this, why dont you take an art class and then paint for on thw weekends? A friend of mine works as a teacher, has 2 kids, but has carved out time on the weekends to painr. She now holds local exhibitions, and even sells the odd painting. Won't pay her bills but gives her great joy.

Not everyone can be a successful artist or writer or musician, but everyone can have creativity in their lives.

Most of these successful art people have been graciously funded by wealthy parents through the early stages, similar with actors and other low paid gamble careers.