I should caveat this with, have always been reasonable and encouraging about husband spending time with family - no issues with in-laws etc
Christmas arrangements have been raised for this year & we want to get things firmed up. It’s our turn to go to my parents this year and see my side. Last year not so smooth at BILs house when I had to spell out to DH post dinner games we had to go as my family 40 mins away were waiting. DH miffed & yes - despite no obvious times set in stone, it really shouldn’t have came as surprise we needed to leave. Ironically I also made exec decision to go to BILs in effort to keep everyone happy.
Fast fwd to this year DH just raised it ‘to avoid same thing happening as last year.’ Which not only is a bit of a dig lol, but clearly setting out dinner with my family first, then to his side after. Again I need to emphasise I have no probs in principle, but feel frustrated if my family involved it seems to immediately qualify time with his family too on Christmas Day? For context, DH would be perfectly content spending Christmas at ours with no commitments to seeing anyone. However he knows two close siblings will still call. Also they would call regardless at any point of the day. Feel like DH just needs to ensure we see his side if my side involved - and because of what happened last year. AIBU? Sorry if you’ve made it this far 😂