To ask you to talk me down.

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Anxiety is spiralling here tonight.
DD(5) has had a cold since Wednesday when she got her flu jab
She was sucking in at the ribs so we took her to A&E who said it was viral wheeze and gave her a nebuliser, once she’d had that they were happy to go home and use a blue inhaler as and when

DD had bronchiolitis as a 6 week old and ended up on ventilation. She’s asleep now sounding sniffly and my anxiety is through the roof. She’s had a bad cough but is fine in herself, eating and drinking okay and as always happy.

I am so anxious and it’s brought me back to 5 years ago.

I don't want to read and run

I think you know your anxiety is the one talking to you tonight, not your rational mind. Your DD has a common cold and the hospital felt happy to send her home. She wouldn't be eating, drinking or acting herself if this was something bigger.. she's lucky to have a Mummy who loves her so much but the worrying won't help her. Try watch a comfort show/listen to your favourite podcast x

They think if is RSV as she was sucking in at the ribcage.
It was RSV that put her in hospital when she was tiny. I know anxiety is there but it’s not leaving. I never sent her to nursery or anything because of the bronchiolitis and I am trying so hard to fight the urge to pull her out of school.

Have a handhold. It’s not surprising this has triggered anxiety about what happened 5 years ago. It’s perfectly normal.

But she is much bigger than she was 5 years ago. So are her airways so even if she got bronchiolitis now she is unlikely to need hospitalisation let alone ICU.

You have the inhaler at home which will open up her airways IF it’s needed again. And if she starts struggling A&E and the nebuliser are there. They wouldn’t have sent you home if they thought she was going to need to end up needing another nebuliser though.

100% have been in your shoes. DS6 gets viral wheezes regularly and everytime it happens it reminds me of the first time we had to go to the hospital and have a nebuliser and how worried I was.

When it comes to breathing issues, doctors are super careful about not sending children home until they are certain they are fine, so please do take comfort from the fact she has been seen to.

if it helps with your worries, sleep next to her and listen into her chest and keep an eye on her ribs regularly. It might also help her to sleep better if she has been unwell to have you nearby.

You may be tired too from going to a&e so it might be making you more anxious than you would be if you weren’t as tired.

Does she have an asthma or post viral wheeze diagnosis? Not uncommon in kids who had RSV & bronchiolitis as a baby. That would cause the ribs to suck in too so not necessarily RSV. Can be any respiratory virus.

Nope. Its never ever happened before so they don’t have any concerns re asthma.
I just worry so much. I remember being a new mum getting blue lighted to A&E with her. My heads all over the place.

If it was bad she wouldn’t be eating would she? She had so much food in the hospital and McDonald’s on the way home.
If she couldn’t breathe would she wake up. I don’t think I’ll sleep tonight.

your instinct is right - if she was super unwell she wouldn’t have had an appetite.

I hope you both managed to get some sleep? How are you feeling this morning?

DD is still wheezing. She hates the inhaler too so that’s another worry.
Does anyone know how long viral wheeze lasts?

She was sick earlier. She’s been off her food today. Had the cold since Wednesday.
Still wheezy but not coughing as much

Running round fine as anything. Do I take her back or just manage at home. Anxiety is through the absolute roof