I have multiple DC, my eldest is significantly disabled and my youngest has just been put on the ASD pathway for a diagnosis. Life is hard work and pretty shit sometimes. I had to give up work to become a FT carer for my eldest so I've been a SAHM for years and gradually lost myself in the process. I'm only 30.
For the past 8 years I have sacrificed 99.99% of my weekend time and given up opportunities to socialise outside the home have a bit of me time (aside a very infrequent hour at the gym, once every three weeks or so) because my partner works nights and doesn't want to change that.
He is scheduled to work Friday and Saturday nights, fair enough, but then he goes and plays football on Sunday mornings straight after work. He gets in at about 1.30pm the sleeps all afternoon, so that's all of Sunday gone too.
I've made a mum friend who I'd like to have the odd wine night with, she's a working mum so could only do weekends. She invited me round for tomorrow but it coincides with his football day and him sleeping all day.
I suggested we alternate weekends. He plays football one Sunday, I have the following Sunday to do something for myself so instead of football he comes home from work and sleeps enabling me to have a few hours from say 5ish, rinse and repeat.
He is majorly pissed off about that but I think it's perfectly fair.
He left in a huff muttering about "fuck the kids then" implying I'm being selfish and not caring about the kids.. because I want the odd evening for myself.
AIBU?