DH and DS plans

[WindyMillerSmith]

AIBU to feel a bit hurt that DH and DS have made plans tonight to game together and haven’t talked to me about whether that’s ok. I’m on my own, yet again while they play together. Feeling a bit sad.

Well I don't agree with them. It's rude to leave anyone out especially when it's 3 people. Doesn't matter if DH doesn't like feedback, he needs it. Make it clear that weekends/evenings are family time and no one is excluded. Do you think DH is doing it on purpose? Or just being the cool dad?
I'm annoyed on your behalf. Open the wine!

Do you ever suggest doing something with just DS? My exDH used to get pissy when I did things with DD without him but he never suggested doing things as a family or just with her.

Aw thank you. I’ve opened some Xmas chocs and eating my body weight whilst watching a film. 😊

You could suggest something like “tomorrow night lets play a boardgame” get in there first.

I always try and plan collaboratively- so if I wanted to do something with DS I’d chat with DH first. So tonight when DS asked to play I’d have said ‘May be, let’s see what mum wants to do and decide’. I’d have then either said it’s fine (but would have felt considered instead of just forgotten ) or I’d have said ‘how about you do that for an hour and then we do XYZ’. I just wanted to feel considered.

Yes that’s what I was going to do but they’d already planned. I’ll get in there early tomorrow.

It shouldn't have to be a bloody competition, it should be a joint decision. Put your foot down and enjoy those chocs 😉